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writes:Okay, I haven't had a lot of experience at all when it comes to relationships, which may explain why I'm obsessing so much. Note: this is a typical teenage angst question so feel free to escape now while you can! you have been warned!Any way, over this summer I've been hanging out with some new friends with my best mate, and I've gotten to like this one guy a lot (I won't bore you with the happy little details!) and apparently he likes me back as well. I've heard this from my best friend who knows him well, and she's heard it from loads of his friends - apparently it's 'common knowledge' amongst our little group that we both like each other yet neither of us are actually making a move! -_-The downside to everything is that he's gone to uni to study medicine (the course I'm applying for at the moment - which is part the reason why we gelled so well). Anyway, he is notoriously bad at answering texts and emails, but he sent me an email with his personal statement attached so I could have a look at it and I'm being a little over obsessive about it! (in my defence I have been diagnosed with OCD, but I don't think this actually has an effect on my email obsessing!)Anyway, here's a copy, the names have been shortened by me though:I'm sorry I haven't been able to email you sooner, I hoped that you could see what E and I wrote before you submitted your own (they're very similar). I'll call you as soon as I can, I miss you. All my love, GMy best friend and I, being the teenagers we are have been obsessing over the 'All my love' bit, and whether it means something or not.Yeah. We are that call.Anyway, he hasn't called yet and I'm freaking a little because I know he's chatted to some other people recently. My best mate keeps telling me that he's probably really busy with uni and everything. I know she's probably right, but I just wanted a second opinion! Cheers!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (6 October 2011):
 just the way he signed his letter.. not to be taken literally. I'm sorry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2011): I wouldn't take a sign off on a letter so literally.
"All my love" is a pretty common sign off. It's an affectionate sign off, but it's still just a sign off. Perhaps one day you'll see that most business letters and contractual letters are signed off "Sincerely". This doesn't mean that the person writing had pangs of conscious while they were describing contract points A and B or giving you notice of some legal issue.... He/she just uses "sincerely" to set a tone. They try to convey that they are serious and honest.
Similarly, this guy was most likely trying to convey affection ...he was NOT trying to express "all his love." I wouldn't try to dissect these words.
In fact I would pay more attention to his actions. He's been distracted and less communicative since he left. He's in medical school and it's pretty time consuming. And from what I've witnessed watching friends in medical school, you either commit fully (marry and move in together) or you don't. It's too intense an experience to carry on a long distance relationship. It doesn't mean he doesn't like you or didn't like you, or even couldn't potentially like you, he probably just doesn't have the spare attention to give you right now.
Good luck on your medical school ambitions.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (6 October 2011):
 The way I see it is you were a summer romance which I am not saying that because it is not summer anymore you're out of the picture. He is obviously very busy with his studies and keeping in touch with friends so it may be tough for him to give you his attention because there are a lot of things that come first. The people he has talked are probably his close friends.
I'm sure he still wants to talk to you and will when he has more time. It takes a lot more time to start a relationship with someone then it does to just keep in touch with a friend.
Try not to worry and just give him some time. With that being said I wouldn't wait around forever for him just because of the uncertainties here.
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