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writes:Dear Readers, Hi, I'm 14 years old. I totally hate my dad, he is the reason for all my heartaches. He never hurt me physically but he always hurts me with his words. I always got depressed because of him.. I told myself... when I die, 70% is the heartaches he gave me. He always makes me cry. My dad is really careless with words. Every night I think of a perfect dad, that I never had. Recently I got sick. Maybe it's because of severe depression. And it's all his fault! I guess. He always wanted to be understood. But in my case, He never understands my feelings. He is so selfish! I don't want to tell this "if I will have the chance to choose a dad" : I WILL NEVER EVER CHOOSE HIM TO BE MY DAD!! He is always saying that we never understand him but we really do. He just don't know it! I always show love and respect to him. I study hard, but he never supported me.. I always come up with a simple but hurtful question.. am I a bad daughter?.
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reader, jalen254  +, writes (10 December 2009):
I really hate my dad he never does anything with me never plays the game with me or anything he makes me sick
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (20 January 2009):
 Honey! life is never easy growing up. Take heart in the fact that you have a wonderfull relationship with your mum. One day you will be old enough to make the choice if you see your dad or not. But until then, just try to keep the piece, even if its just for your family.
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reader, BrokenSouL28 +, writes (20 January 2009):
BrokenSouL28 is verified as being by the original poster of the question i still hate him, my mom and my dad is always fighting, i really hate that when they are arguing they are always showing us. I'm pity to my brother and sister, because they are still innocent and they hear our parents fighting, and telling bad words to my mom, My mom is a good mom to us, but my dad is really irresponsible. He don't support us, but he still have the right to tell us bad words.. Even my siblings have the heartaches coming from him.. He don't have work, he have so many vises, plus he has a new girlfriend. i always cry, writing blogs is the only way i can express my feeling and talking to my mom, my mo m and i are so close to each other. I love my mom, i hate my dad.. my dad has a culture shock before when he is still young, His dad died, and after 2 months his mom married another guy. The guy is a pilot. His mom left him alone. He lived with other relatives.. thats the start of his culture shock. but i dont want to have a culture shock like him. He is really selfish! I HATE HIM.
please give me some advice. Thanks!!!
-------BrokenSoul28
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (9 January 2009):
Sorry, but yes sometimes they do have a right to put you down (anon) its called tough love, as I believe has already been said. The problem is that when we are young we dont want to hear it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2009): I suffer the same thing, but with my Mother. And I had to live alone with her all my life. Can you imagine the hell I went through? Not only did she hurt me with words, she tried to control my whole life.What I can tell you is: keep studying, get a degree, find a good job, get your own house. Your father has no right to put you down, no matter what.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (7 January 2009):
Babe, There are children out there suffering far more than you can even imagine. At your age everyone goes through this, you think that your Dad is against you because of what exactlly? you have given no reason really.
I understand that its good to let of steam, and like I said before, as teenagers we have all been through these feelings. One day you will look back and be glad of the lessons he has taught you, life is never as bad as you think.
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reader, simply_singular +, writes (7 January 2009):
 Believe it not, you may not truly understand your dad. While that doesn't give him the right to be hurtful with words, try to remember this..1. No one has the power to hurt you unless you let them, words are just that(believe me it took me years to figure that out!) 2. Words are just that, words. Hopefully he at least provides for you in other ways, roof, food, basic necessities and such. For that you will look back on and be glad. 3. You will leave one day and it will not remember why you really "hated" him. 4. You are not a "bad daughter" sometimes some people aren't equipped to show emotions, deal with other etc.5. Talk to you guidance counselor or someone(adult, everyone your age hates their parents) you trust. 6. You've made it this far and in a few more years you can walk away if you choose and never look back. You are almost there and believe me, you've made it this far you can make it a couple of more years. Teenagers have it so hard, yes you have everything but at the same time lacking so much. Seems parents are devoid of the ability to truly feel and see how hard it can be. I wish you well and remember it does get easier, you just can't see it!
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