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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend is adding new single women (who look like me by the way) on his MySpace Account and he gets defensive with me whenever I try to ask him why. He says most of his friends male or female have actually asked him to be his friend and I believe him, but recently I found out he added at least one female from a close city who also belongs to our religion. (I know he wouldn't date out of our religion) We recently got back together after a 2 month breakup and a 2 year serious relationship. He acts as if he is hurt him when I ask him about his MySpace Account or whatever other "Add Friends" site he've joined. I know all his passwords to his emails and the sites he uses more frequently but he is like obsessed with this friends websites and every week he joins a different one or adds more people or does things I get kind of surprised about. I've known him for a long time and this is not like him We are in our thirties, supposedly engaged and this is hurting me. He always gets mad when I talk to him over the phone about this matter. It's like I can't trust him anymore. I don't think I want to be with him anymore but jusst because of these websites. I've accepted them at first and he respected me and added long term friends or coworkers but now is like he wants to meet new attractive, local, single women. Should I forget about him? I'm pretty sure if I give him an ultimatum he will choose the MySpace over me.
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reader, ellen3  +, writes (7 August 2007):
I have just discovered that my boyfriend signed up to a dating site, when i asked him why he just said to have a look, i cannot understand why he would do this, i find it strange, why would he want to have a look at single woman on a dating site, could anyone else tell me what they think about this, we are both in our 40s,
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reader, daglish  +, writes (24 July 2007):
 Am really sorry to read what u r going through coz it can be disturbing when the only person you love seems to have some lots of time for other electonic friends. However have you ever sat down and asked yourself the true cause of your mentioned previous breakup? If you have then u got a solution to it. or if u didnt, then you managed to forge a reunion on some grounds best known to you and your sweetheart. Now that you need and love this guy more than ever, try not be too hard on him in any way not even about his online friends.This might just be an obssession which has nothing to do with his commitment in your relatinship. Infact do your best to give him as much attention as he needs so that u can tactifully reduce on the amount of time he spends infront of the monitor. Otherwise there is nothing as strong as a reborn relationship only if its handled in a mature way otherwise it could turn out to be more fragile than a fresh egg
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