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writes:So I've been dating this guy for a month almost to. Him and his ex just recently broke up. And he's still friends with her. They talk every single day and all day! Even when he's with me sometimes. They dated for over a year and lived together. He's still giving her money still paying her bills. And hes spending this week at her house. He says its because his work is closer to her house and he's running low on gas and such. Saturday he's going to a carnival with her and claims they're just going as friends and she has a 3 year old daughter that's not his. He said they're taking her together. He says he has been sleeping at her house but they haven't had sex or messed around or nothing. Why is he still wanting to be friends with her. Take Her places, give her money, text her every day, hang out with her, pay her bills. ? Does he still love her? He told me he didn't break up with her for me he broke up with her because of the situation. Any advice?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (18 June 2014):
 Why on EARTH would you want that douche-canoe to CHOOSE you?
He is USING you to get his ex back. USING your body while she is holding out on him.
He isn't GOING to leave her for you.
And honestly, be glad that he isn't because HE IS NOT a keeper.
STOP wasting more of your life and time with this guy.
CUT him out of your life and spend some time considering WHY you are willing to be with a guy who treats you like you are second best... Time to grab your self respect and walk away.
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (18 June 2014):
 Its simple he loves her and you are the rebound girl. Save your pride and don't ask for any clarity or make a choice. He has made his choice. I am truly sorry this happened to you but this guy is a real a$$hole and you deserve better.
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reader, sarcy24  +, writes (18 June 2014):
 Honey get your self respect back and get rid. He is playing you for a fool. Dump him immediately. I am with Mark 100% on this. This chap is a liar and playing you. He is sleeping with her and desperately trying to play happy families to get her back while keeping you as a fall back. Please kick him into touch- you are worth so much more,
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reader, Mark1978 +, writes (18 June 2014):
 You are his play thing while he tries to get back with his ex. Ditch this looser right now as he is making a fool of you. He is sleeping in the same bed with another woman and you are questioning what's happening? If they cuddled then slept in the same bed obviously they had sex. You are his rebound girl he is using to get the best of both worlds.
You do not give him the choice of you or her, you break it off completely. Why would you want to be with this guy?
Mark
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI asked to go along with them Saturday and he said no. I also found out that they messed around. And they cuddled and god only knows what else. And they have been sleeping in the same bed! Hes staying there until thursday then going back friday to give her money. He didnt tell me that he was going to stay with her. One of his friends told me. Im a rebound now or something. I do want him to make a choice me or her but I know he's going to pick her. They broke up because they was always fighting and stuff.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (18 June 2014):
He's young so this sort of behavior is somewhat expected. But if they are so close, why did they even break up?
I don't think any girlfriend would accept these sort of habits though. I am even surprised you are still with him! I think the mature thing to do is to just end the relationship with him rather than forcing him to make a decision.
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reader, Caring Aunty A  +, writes (18 June 2014):
 If you seriously believe his cockamamie BS stories you’ve played right into his hands… He’s playing you for a fool; running low on gas, what a crock load of cow manure!?
Gees this guy could sure fertilize The Sahara Desert with his shyte!
Go Saturday to the Carnival and watch them be friends from a distance, if you don't already get the picture! :(
WaLoS – CAA
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (18 June 2014):
Oh, he is so not over her.
Are you willing to date a guy who gives you SCRAPS of his attentions and affections?
Now I get that he have gotten close to the little girl and love spending time with her, but "pretending" to be a family is not a smart thing to do for anyone involved. Then there is the fact that they broke up yet talk EVERY day all day... DOES that sounds like someone who is broken up?
I'm sorry, I think you should bow out, you have only spend 2 months with him and I seriously doubt this relationship (whatever it is) he has to his ex will change. So unless you think it's grand to share your man... I'd walk away now.
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