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writes:A customer came to apply for a house and seemed like he was interested in me. He asked my name, then told me his as he left. He came back the next day and asked me who would help him with his housing application as I was going somewhere else. I came back to cover for a colleague so when we were alone he asked 'how have you been?' even though it had only been a day since I saw him and he randomly said 'he was sorting himself out' - I think he was referring to his housing and job situation. When he left, he ignored my colleague and he looked at me and went. Was he interested? I did fancy him but felt I couldn't act upon it being at work. I don't know if I should have been more receptive or left it.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (15 January 2017):
 I don't see anything in what you have written to indicate this guy was interested in you ... there are alternate explanations for all you have written, for example I always ask for a name when I am dealing with a department or organisations where those dealings might be ongoing (banks, housing, rentals, requesting information etc), so that if necessary I can refer back to my original or subsequent contacts.
"How have you been" is a common way to greet people or to initiate and/or continue conversations ... a way to acknowledge he remembered you from the day before, and his comment about sorting himself out could be a way to promote his cause for housing ... a reassurance of a kind. I also say this kind of thing when I am under stress, to reassure myself more than anything else.
Don't read too much into these interactions .... however, if he comes back with a bunch of flowers for you then start battering your eyelashes :-)
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (15 January 2017):
 Perhaps he was just being friendly. Perhaps he was trying to show interest.
Now that he knows where you are and what you name is, look out for him popping in or phoning under some pretext and just chat with him, asking him how things are going and whether he is settling into his new home. How responsive he is could give you an indication of whether he is interested in taking things further. As long as your place of work does not have any policy on staff dating customers, suggest a coffee or similar, and see where it goes.
Good luck.
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