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writes:Moved in recently, I replaced another guy who lives here so didn't know the flatmates that well.The day I move in, the girl who lives here tells me that she hates the other guy, that he won't pull his weight in the flat, left a stain she ended up cleaning because he never got around to it, used some of her food and then lied about it, etc. I didn't know either of em before I moved in, nor did I want to gang up, so while we girls get on I decided to see for myself if that was true or not.Well.. turns out unfortunately theres some truth in what she said. For example we agreed on different responsibilities like its his job to top up the electricity on the meter (we split the bill so we pay him back ofc) but he's forgotten to do this a few times so I've had to because it went out. (He works all day so it affects us more than him). He also does things like ask me to knock on his door to let me know when Im finished in the toilet (his room is just down the corridor FFS).The other girl is away for a few weeks so I'm not sure if we should both talk about it with him then. I also don't want to gossip or gang up on him but at the same time he is incredibly entitled and it pisses me off TBH.Advice TSR? Should I speak to him now before she gets back?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2017): Unfortunately what you are experiencing is very common when you are renting with several flat mates. In my experience, there is very little you can do except move yourself or hope he moves out. I agree with Honeypie, you should just ignore his request that you knock on his door when you're finished in the bathroom. If you swap his chore, there is every chance he will fail to deliver on that too and at least all the while he is getting the electricity sorted he is paying his contribution. If you end up being the person that goes to pay the bill, he may not give you his share of the money.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (14 January 2017):
 1. If you don't WANT to knock on his door after being done on the potty, DON'T.
I would give a flying fart if he WANTS you too. It's up to you.
2. IF the CHORE he has (topping off the electricity meter) doesn't get done, CHANGE his chore. Talk to him and all of you figure out what he can do instead. No need for drama.
Whatever your chore is, you switch with him IF you are more reliable. Would make sense to me.
Wait to discuss til you are all there then call a house meeting or whatever you want to call it.
I wouldn't bring up the "knock in the door" thing as you can ignore that if you want. If you walk past his door anyways I don't see the big deal to knock.
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