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writes:i work full time and I really don't get see to my boyfriend (of 2 years) very often. When I went to a birthday party with him on my very few day offs. Well he said needed make a phone call which took half an hour. I got worried and looking for him. Long story short I found the party girl making out with my boyfriend. He saw me after I ran out of the house. He said he cheated on me because the devil make him and he was really drunk that he couldn't think straight. He begging me not to leave him. Since I had a bit too drink as well I took him back. We went to our apartment and the wildest sex ever. He wants work it out and me take more time off so it can happen. Was that a stupid thing for me to do cause now I keep thinking he's going to cheat on me again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2009): it is not pathetic that he lied, it is more pathetic that you accepted this lies. did the devil aslo make you accept his explanation. you know he would do it again, half an hour later and he was screwing someone else almost in your presence. it seems like you are a sucker for punishment. and you only have yourself to blame. why? because you are too weak. you would rather have a cheater in yor life than no one. you have set the scene for more cheating and you have also given him your blessings. and knowing him, he will certainly indulge again. imagine him telling his friends and the other woman how he sweet talked you into believing his lies. man, he is smooth. sorry, the devil made me write the above.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (20 June 2009):
 Got to give him points for daring. Most guys would just never have the guts to pull this off, fearing the girl would be to smart to fall far such a stupid excuse.
People push their limits, he just that one limit can be pushed. Be prepared for more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2009): He's trying to inflict blame on you by telling you if you only worked less, you could work everything out and maybe he wouldnt've cheated. WRONG. Becuase you were present while he cheated, the subcauncious guilt trip is BS.
When he says "the devil made me do it," he means:
"I'm a complete and utter jackass and i'm going to blame it on the devil becuase i'm a retard and think that I can convince you that the devi actually came up throught the floor, and forces my lips to clobber that really hot girl."
You gotta read between the lines to get the whole message.
Dump his ass, focus on work, and find another, equally hard-working individual.
~SY.
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reader, Your friend +, writes (19 June 2009):
 He did it not the devil, this would have to be the most lame excuse I have ever heard. He did not take any responsibility for his actions, when will the devil convince him to do it again? By the way having sex so soon after him cheating sent him the wrong message.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2009): I don't think it's stupid to want to give someone another chance.
But I do think that this has left trust problems within you, which is understandable. I think you both need to talk about what happened, why he was with another girl. Okay, he said it was the alcohol and stuff, but that just sounds like a flimsy excuse to me!
If he is serious about wanting to work on the relationship, that is good. But if he cheats again, then I would imagine that he is probably going to keep doing that. And if you really feel that you can't trust him, then that isn't going to be a good sign for the relationship either.
So if you want to try and work things out with him, then try that, and I hope it goes well. But if he messes you around again, then it may be that he isn't that serious about the relationship after all. x
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (19 June 2009):
 hun get rid of him! "the devil made him do it" that's the most pathetic excuse i've ever heard!!!
he should of known better!! you just need to leave him i mean you can't spend your relationship thinking "whose he with? where is he?" and if he comes back saying "the devil made me do it" well it's just a load of bull!
come on girl! you know you deserve better than that!
and you clearly can't trust him so you may as well end it.
hope this helps hun, he'll get away with anything now because he'll just say the devil made him do it and you can't accept that! just another lame excuse!
Hope this helps hun.
x x x good luck
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