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writes:My ex is STILL saying he loves me, it has been a month since he dumped me. I told him to stop saying this to me but he said no, and that he would always love and care about me. He said,why can't you accept my love,whatever form it is in?..What does he mean by this?? I brought up the fact that we would eventually have new partners, and when this did happen, would he still "love" me? He said yes,until I die. Somehow, I don't believe this..Is it possible to love someone you are not with? How can romantic love turn into friendship love so fast? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2010): Think about it for a moment...when you truly love someone, do you dumped them? Do you take them for granted? No, no, and no. Only those individuals who are ungrateful and have no true emotional ties to the person they are dating or in a relationship with can dumped them, cheat or just simply walk away. I say cut this guy loose and don't allow him to use your life as a revolving door where he can come and go as he pleases. Give him a certain amount of time to get it together and if you don't see any improvement, I say leave him for good, change your cell number, block him for sending you emails and move on with your life. It may be difficut, but you will be grateful in the end.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2010): Damage limitation. Hes trying to keep you sweet while moving on. If you think he might still have feelings for you, you are less likely to create a fuss and turn into "Psycho Ex Girlfriend" which most guys fear.
Saying he still loves you, can also have the added advantage that it might encourage you might sit on an emotionally back burner for him. Then should he find the grass isnt so green on the other side, he has you to go running back to in the short term. Your gut is telling you that if he really loved you, you would still be together. And you are right. Pay no attention to his words. Move on and dont be manipulated.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (28 April 2010):
Oh please, tell him to shove his "I love you's" where the sun don't shine. I had a boyfriend that did this too and it's just a crock. He loves you as a friend but he's not in love with you; otherwise, you'd still be in a relationship. As time passes by and he meets someone new as well as yourself, all those feelings will be gone. Just quit talking to him, it will make your life a lot easier.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (28 April 2010):
 I guess that after all it's a matter of semantics and of the meaning you give to the word "love".
I think he does not mean "love" like being in love. If you take away the romantic implications, sure you can love a someone who is not your partner.
Said that, I'll repeat something I have said already on this site:
Actions speak louder than words.
If you want to know what somebody really thinks about you- look at what he does,not what he says.
People will say the most extravagant things for the most unfathomable reasons. Not necessarily because they are natural born liars. But because they want you to feel better. Or they want to look good. Because they feel guilty, because they get momentarily carried away by their emotions. Tons of possible reasons.
Always safer to trust what it's really happening rather than what is being said.
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reader, raiders +, writes (28 April 2010):
 You can love a cat,
You can love a car,
You can love your friend,
you can love but not be in-love with a person,
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