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writes: met this guy, was kissing him for a week,really nice but then he dumped me and went back to his ex girlfriend however said he still wanted to remain friends which was good because we are in the same circle of friends. but now we are still texting and still meeting up and i stayed in his house in the same bed the other night but nothing happened, he says it has to stay a secret though, what does he want from me?
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reader, bodylotion +, writes (27 March 2006):
 This guy and you should not be staying at each others house,especially in his bed.He his your ex and he as a new girlfreind which means he should be spending as much time with her as possible to build a strong relationship.Do you still like this guy or would you prefere to stay freinds?Mabe you could explain to him that he should be spending time with his new girlfreind.Does she no your meeting up on a regular basis?Does she no you have slept in the same bed?I don't think so.This guy wants this secret kept has he dosen't want his new relationship destroyed.You should forget about this little incident after all nothing happened and move on.
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reader, wildgirl2 +, writes (27 March 2006):
this is hard to say but really you have to look at the situation and see if you stay in his bed even with nothing happenenig it shows how close ye are getting also does his girkfriend no that ye kissed in the first placebe careful with what everyou decide
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2006): He's telling his other girlfriend that she's the only one and he's seeing you on the side. Thats why you have to keep your little secret. I see pain ahead my love, call an end to it now, keep your dignity and let him cheat with someone else......
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reader, Sexybum  +, writes (27 March 2006):
 When you say you are still texting and meeting up... Is it in a flirtasious way or is it completely plantonic? Does his girlfriend meet up with you, or do you two just meet up your own.
The reason I ask is because I wonder if his girlfriend knows about you, and I wonder if she is uncomfortable with your history and you being friends now. I think that if you stayed at his house in his bed, he would want to keep it a secret, because even though nothing happened he would have a hard job proving that to his girlfriend. That is most likely the reason taht he would keep it a secret.
My boyfriend recently had a girl, who had previously fancied him, stay at his house. He says nothing happened, but I don't beleive him and I have split up with him. It makes sense that he wouldn't want his girlfriend to know.
If you are uncomfortable with being kept a secret (and if your friendhip is completely plantonic then there's no reason why you should be a secret) then I think you should let him know. Not in a demanding way, but in an informative way. And if he still keeps you a secret, ask yourself if you are happy with that. If not then I'd suggest finding some new friends and moving on (you don't have to abandon your friendship with him, just spend your time with other people)If you carry on being his secret friend I think it will end up hurting your feelings in several way.
Be careful and good luck sweetie x
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reader, Angelicc +, writes (27 March 2006):
 i think you maybe reading too much into what he said. its nice that you've reminded friends. but you being his ex staying out his house, in his bed, i think thats something he'll want to keep a secret. thats all i think he refered to.
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