| A
female
,
*ubblemel13
writes: I met a guy on the train 2 years ago who is 26, i am 27. We get on great and i do feel very connected to him in a lot of important ways except sexualy. I do fancy him but one of the reasons we split was because i never wanted sex, i was fine when i did it, but i never initiated with him and it caused us a lot of problems, the reason being is that he is was shorter than me and also as thin as me, and i wasnt used to the difference but i liked him enough to go out with him and hopes it wouldnt be an issue, well it was, he was quite insecure and would put a lot of pressure on me and he was also very demanding for my time, the thing is, even though we split up, we keep ending up speaking and he still says he loves me and that were soul mates and as much half of me believes it, the other half is too scared to go for it again cos i have broken his heart once and am not sure if we are compatible physically, i dont want such a small thing such as looks or body to get in the way of being with someone but its not just that, its the fact he likes to be in control and i just wonder if a person can change or is he likely to always be this way. I dod love the guy and i know if i got back with him id be treated so well, but is that enough, is it wrong that i dont feel electicity off him, i fancy him but i dont know if im fooling myself. Being possessive is the biggest problem and if that was curable i think it would work, but i just dont know
View related questions:
insecure, soul mates, soulmate, split up Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, wildgirl2 +, writes (27 March 2006):
im in a similar situation i love my boyfriend and really enjoy being around him but there is no spark and before i thought there was so its hard to give you advice when i havnt being strong enough to dump him if you go back to this guy do you think it wil change the situation if not there is no point in putting yourself through this again
A
female
reader, bodylotion +, writes (27 March 2006):
 He says he will treat you well but could he just be saying this to get you back. He use to treat you badly so what makes you think he won't go back to his old ways. Like the old saying "a leopard never changes it's spots". Some relationships last for years with no physical attraction as they go off the personality of their partner.A down side to this is that you may not want as much sexual intercourse which can draw to people apart.
...............................
|
