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He says I'm the only one he's had sexual feelings over, but in reality he is not gay. I've fallen in love with him, now what?

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Question - (30 June 2008) 5 Answers - (Newest, 16 July 2008)
A male United States age 26-29, *atehurley14 writes:

Well I'm a 14 year old, gay guy and one of my best friends is 16 and doesnt exactly know his sexuality yet. Me and him have made out a lot and I've given him bj's (sorry 4 the tmi). He's told me that he's straight and that im the only one that he's had sexual feelings over but he's also told me thats he's just confused. It hurts me cuz I've fallen in love with him and I can't imagine my life without him and I know he doesn't feel as strongly as I do.What should I do??????

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A male reader, natehurley14 United States +, writes (16 July 2008):

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natehurley14 agony auntWell dylan an i have parted ways and we no longer speak 2 eachother. He decided that being gay/bi wasnt him. It hurt me alot at first and i hate to say this but i still have feelings for him...but im ok now cuz i found a new boyfriend and we r doin great

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A male reader, Boonridge McPhalify United Kingdom +, writes (30 June 2008):

Boonridge McPhalify agony auntalthough what i wrote below sounds harsh i'm not saying dont have this relationship but be aware that it could have strange repercussions in what is known as the land of "freedom". i personally think be happy in life...

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A male reader, Boonridge McPhalify United Kingdom +, writes (30 June 2008):

Boonridge McPhalify agony auntmaybe he is wary of that fact that you are four years underage in america and that although he is also underage by two he would be seen as the party responsible for causation were this to come out.

would he be classed as a sexual predator/paedophile?????

would you want that?

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A female reader, lah mouw United States +, writes (30 June 2008):

lah mouw agony auntBefore you go any further and actually DO hurt yourself. You need to figure out where he's at with all this. Maybe he's just exploring and curious... or maybe he's scared. You mentioned that you guys are best friends. Try talking it over with him. Ask him why he feels this way for you, try to get some detail about the situation make sure it doesn't become vague or else you guys will be stuck in a rut.

I hope this helped a little bit! EK! if this didn't make sense you can always contact me on the little mail thing..:]

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A female reader, dangerouslove. United States +, writes (30 June 2008):

dangerouslove. agony aunt"He says I'm the only one he's had sexual feelings over"

Are the feelings just sexual, or does he actual have real feelings for you is the question you need to figure out. Don't let him string you along, while he explores his sexuality and plays with different genders! See, the thing is with us young girls though honey is that we think we're in love after we've gotten sexual with somebody. I don't know if it's the same for you, or if it's not. But, Do you really want to get hurt in the end of this? I'm just saying. You need to talk to him and ask him where his hearts at. Tell him how you feel and how strongly you feel. I'm guessing you probably would like to be with him too? Well if thats the case, you need to tell him that too! If hes still "confused" and replying like, "i dont know" then I think it's time to move on. There are alot of guys out there, girl, your still young.

But, I wish you the best of luck!

Keep me updated, alright?

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