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*oethuzaraye
writes:Hi dearcupid.I need you to advice me.I'm so confuse now. I don't know what to do. Me and my fince been together for 3 and half years on and off.We're agure for 5 or 6 times aweek.That's a lot!He make the problem for every little things.If he kiss me if my eyes are open. If I don't do the dishes.If he ask me to go get him for drink and if I roll my eyes or said someting like "why can't you go get yourself" then he told me I gonna be his feature wife and I have to takecare of him.I'm working 12hours aday and 5 days aweek.sometime I feel tired.So, I can't clean the house everyday.He said I'm the woman and I have to make money and clean the house too.That's my job. He is my first man and I never live with anybody before him.He is 8 years older than me.Now I feel like I lost interested in him.I don't feel like to kiss him or huge him. When he call me I don't feel like to answer.I don't know why.I thinking about to leave him lately.But I don't wanna be feel alone.I use to have alot of friend before but when I met him he don't want me to have friend so,I don't contect to them for long time.I don't even know where they are.I quick smoking for him,but now I start it back.I don't eat pork because of my religion he agree not to eat it but I found a bag of pork ring in the car. He said I have to acept who he is,but why can't he acept who I am.I change everything for him for good,he change things for bad.Should I break up with him because of he eating pork.I can't be with the person like that. But I love him so much and if he leave I don't wanna get hurt and feel lonely. Please help me.what should I do?
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reader, moethuzaraye +, writes (6 March 2011):
moethuzaraye is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for advising me. That's what I'm gonna do. I will break up with him completely this time. No way back to him. Only I have to be strong and move on. Thank you very much.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (6 March 2011):
 If you are thinking about leaving him already, how do you think it's going to be if you commit your entire life to him through marriage? This guy doesn't respect you, he basically just wants a maid. You seriously are better off alone.
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reader, sneha09  +, writes (6 March 2011):
 you should split up. and never get worried of being alone.just think there are so many people in this world.how can you be alone? and whats the use of social networking ,clubs and discs then?and even if you think so,its better to have a world of nothing rather than a hell.life is far more beautiful, you will realize it later on.get out of it,he is going to use you far more badly.Try to make friends and never give up good friends for the sake of anyone any more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2011): i agree you wish i think dump him for mistreating you and also not loving you like suppose too.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (6 March 2011):
 You're "the woman"? You work 12 hours a day, yet he expects you to fetch for him and clean the house? No wonder you don't like it.
There are so many better reasons to leave him than just eating pork. And trust me, you already do feel hurt and lonely, and you're still with him.
Drop him now. He doesn't even begin to deserve you.
However, if he wasn't such a jerk, and his only problem was the pork, that is one of those things you accept when you date someone who eats it. I know it offends you, but your only solution to that is to date someone who feels the same way as you, not date someone who likes pork and demand that he changes.
Break up with him because he doesn't love you, and he is mistreating you.
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reader, Mjfbla +, writes (6 March 2011):
 Leave him. He is wayyyyy to controlling. He cant tell you how to run your life. he wants you to be a slave not a wife. Dump him! ya you may be sad but you will b miserable if you stay with him. You will not be happy with him. you will eventually be happy without him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2011): You need to call off the wedding. In fact I think you should completely break up with him. He is a controlling manipulative jerk. He's treating you very badly. this is why you have lost interest in him, it's your gut instinct telling you to get away from this jerk.Don't stay with him (or worse, marry him) just because you're afraid to be alone. that's a very bad reason to marry some one. You will not feel better by staying with someone like this just to avoid being alone. It feels much better to be alone than to be married to some one who treats you badly and makes you feel like crap all the time. At least if you're alone there's always hope you can find someone new that you can be with in a good relationship. If you marry this nasty guy, you are trapped with him.He's the only man you've ever been in a relationship with so you have no basis to judge a good relationship from a bad one. Trust me, your relationship is not a good one. Don't marry him.
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