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He says I am too demanding, I say he is using me for his benefit!

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Question - (4 October 2010) 1 Answers - (Newest, 5 October 2010)
A female United States age , anonymous writes:

ok, I have asked questions on here before.. and now I just need to know it is not me.

I am 47 years old, divorced woman 2 kids. I am finanically independent.

I have been with the same man for 7 years. He is also 47 years old with 2 children.

We have had our share of problems before. I always gave him the benefit of the doubt and tried to work things out but now I have had enough and broke up with him and told him to leave for good.

At 7 years, I have no ring, he does not live with me. He never talks about the future and he has no relationship with my children by his choice. I have a relationship with one of his kids, but the other child totally ignores me and disregards me, and disrespects his father. In all the 7 years, I have never spent 1 holiday with his children or his family and he has stopped coming to my home.

He no longer comes to my house, he expects me to go to his. He only comes around when the children are sleeping or out, if he needs something or daughter wants to. He comes into my home, drops things off, or picks up things and leaves. He lives 10 minutes away, and it will go by for 3 weeks before he makes any effort to see me.

We have not made love since August. When I get mad at him, he hangs up on me, refuses to talk to me for a week and will not call me. When we do talk he is nasty to me. At night, I will call his house, and gets his answering machine. The next morning, oh I didnt feel like answering the phone. I know he has not cheated on me at all (because I have resorted to driving by his house)!

I woke up last week and said, enough is enough. Goodbye. And he is angry with me!!! He does not want to leave!! So asked him if he loved me, he cannot not answer me and answers with another question...so I said goodbye and shame on me for putting up with this.

I told him he completely disrespected me, used me for his needs and strung me along. He refuses to leave me alone now.

I know I am not crazy...I was just stupid and blind. I think he needs help. His exwife cheated on him and told him he sucked as a husband. (Should've known).

He says I am too demanding (??) and shouldnt do this, I say he is using me for his benefit, takes me for granted and needs help.....WHO is right

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A female reader, blindbetty United States +, writes (5 October 2010):

blindbetty agony auntYou know you are right. All these games are a waste of time....there is a sea of men out there. Most by the age of 50 have been cast out again via divorce...but there are men out there. I would say get out and get involved in activities where you have the potential to meet other men and have some fun instead of all this nonsence! Get with someone you can enjoy.

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