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writes:Hi all.Quick bit of background...Was in a relationship with a guy from Apr-08 to Feb-10. He lived 100 miles away and he is 33, I am 21. We stayed in constant contact even after we broke up and a couple of months ago were taking things slowly again with a view to getting back together in due course.Here is what I would like your input/opinion/advice on, if at all possible...I last texted him last Monday. No reply. So I left it to him to text me back. Nothing all day Tuesday so fair enough, figured he was having a busy day at work!Went to a football/soccer game that night and got a phone call at 8:20pm."Hi" - him"Hi""You alright? Where are you?""I'm at football match""Who's playing?""(name of teams) - I got a free ticket from D (my friend)""Oh right you always seem to have a free ticket""Yeah well a friend won 2 and has a s/t so I got one. Can prove it if you like? I'll call you at halftime or something""Oh right convenient well I don't care bye"That was the convo in full.So I text him straight after with a pic of the free ticket (lol) and I said I'd call him after the game. His phone was off. So I put delivery report on my phone and sent him a text saying "Oh your phone is off. Just bumped into someone I didn't wanna bump into!" as I thought he'd be curious and wonder who (I did genuinely bump into someone from my past and wanted to tell him!!! I didn't get a delivery report until 10:10am on Weds so he didn't put his phone on til then.Heard nothing all day Wednesday.Thursday morning I sent him a text "Hi. You're quiet, hope you're ok". Nothing.And that's been it since. I've not text/rang/emailed him and he hasn't bothered with me either.Just looked on Facebook and he's completely deleted his account too. Though he's been saying for ages that he was going to...maybe he's looking for me to text him to ask him why, so he knows I've been online and care etc?It is the 6th anniversary of my father's death on this upcoming Sunday and I am supposed to be going up Sunday overnight to see him - I've booked a non-refundable hotel and I don't know what to do. Do I text him now? Do I wait til Thurs/Fri to see what is going on with him?If I do go up then obviously he will be getting a BIG piece of my mind. But if not, then I guess I will be cutting him out (sadly, because I do love this guy even though he can have episodes like this)What steps would you take if you were in my position. We've always said that we will remain friends if we can't be together. He hasn't bothered with me in almost a week now and I am not sure what to think or do anymore.
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reader, morris_say +, writes (13 October 2010):
If I were you I'd try to sort it out before Sunday, so that if you do see him this weekend then hopefully the air will be cleared. I'd contact him now and get it off my chest. I imagine the weekend will have enough emotion without the addition of an erratic ex, so don't feel bad about putting yourself first this weekend and if that means not seeing him, then don't. As much as exes want to stay friends, it can be very, very difficult. It sounds a bit like he doesn't like the idea of you having fun - him freaking out at the footy tickets - so perhaps you need to decide once and for all whether you're going to get back together in the future or not, as that may be a stumbling block for your friendship right now. Just because the hotel is non-refundable don't let it rule your decision, yeah you'd lose some money, but happiness is more important.Good luck
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