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writes:okay, so i've been with my boyfriend for about 3 months now, we've been close friends for about 5 years. I'm the first serious girlfriend he's ever had, even though i've had quite a few boyfriends before him.the thing is... i'm not a virgin, and he is. i haven't had sex that many times, but he knows all about the times i have (seeing as he's one of my best friends) and the people i've been with. now he wants to have sex with me. i do love him, and i am willing to have sex with him, it's just i've never been good at relationships, and i know how much it hurts to lose your virginity to someone who breaks your heart (it happened to me.) and i don't want it to happen to him. i'm going over to his house tomorrow, and we're probably going to end up having sex if i do.... so what do i do? o.o
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reader, SweetSmoochy  +, writes (8 April 2011):
 You aren't ready to have sex inthis relationship yet. Stay true to your comfort zone and your heart, and wait. Tell him why, honestly and truly. It may take him a while, but eventually he will hopefully understand.
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (8 April 2011):
 I always say that sex is a two-way thing, and should only be participated in unless both parties want to. If you feel it is too soon to have sex with him then you shouldn't. However, if you don't feel it is too soon, if you're comfortable with the idea of having sex with him and if you love him, then I see no reason not to go for it.
Remember it is completely your decision though, and if you decide against it, it is up to him to be understanding and respectful of the way you feel. I would say though that this is a risk we just have to take sometimes. Nobody likes to take a risk when it involves the heart, but if nobody ever risked falling in love out of a fear of getting hurt, then love would not exist at all. It's always a gamble and sometimes it doesn't pay off. However, if you don't roll the dice, how will you ever know for sure?
Good luck with whatever you decide!
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reader, madlib +, writes (7 April 2011):
if you are already worried about breaking his heart, you need to ask yourself why and back out now....if you really were in love with him, you wouldn't even be asking yourself this question. If you are thinking of having sex with him because you want to get off but are feeling guilty because you don't love him...then be a bitch and do it or get out of this fake relationship
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