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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Im seeing this guy for a month. He is crazy about me, well he sounds like a player, you know those people that fear commitment. I am also not looking for anything serious at the moment as im slowly moving out of a relationship. Well, i never pushed him, nor ask him about where the relationship is going. We act as if we are friends with benefits. I dont call him often, but we speak almost everyday and see each other every second day. We have sex once or twice a week. I am enjoying the company, the conversations and sexiness. He is always asking me questions about my current boyfriend (soon to be ex), wanting to know how deep is our relationship. Everytime he asks I do not give him an answer. I told him about the issues with the current boyfie but i didnt give him details. He has been saying he likes me a lot and he would appreciate if we can have a proper relationship, but sometimes he will tease me and say "you are falling in love" "do you wish I can be your boyfriend?" what do you want from us? these are the questions that always come from him. He will then make me feel like he also is not keen for a relationship. Our sex is not so great, but we enjoy each other's company.I like him a lot, but I see signs of a womaniser, he flirts with women, so I am not taking him seriously. Today he did say he really loves me and wishes he can be my boyfriend. I like him a lot, but I wish he can show commitment, but I do not want to push things now as I am contemplating a breakup.He talks about me to his friends saying he has met a decent woman, who he can have great conversations with, beautiful and highly intelligent. Hed say he wishes to keep me but he isnt sure he will be adequate for me.What do we call this kind of a relationship?
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (21 August 2008):
 So he is basically not up for anything but a bit of fun.
All the signs of a playa, just trust your instincts and expect nothing more.
He doesn't sound like he is mature enough for a grown up relationship yet. Getting his confidence boost from girls, basically a messer at the moment. Dont get into something with him the way things are. Both of you aren't ready for an adult relationship. Keep your witts about you, or you will be heading for a fall.
But you know that already, or you wouldn't of posted on here.
Good luck.
C xxxx
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