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30-35,
*nonamyous
writes: i gave my boyfriend a JOKINGLY naughty note like i totally didnt mean any of it and he knew that and he took it jokingly. because we both agreed to no sex before we're married. and he accidently left the note on his kitchen table and his mom found it and read it { and she didnt take it jokingly} and now she is all ticked off at us. and like he's not aloud to talk to me on the phone and only school is when we're aloud to talk. and i kinda have to get his mom to like me because we plan to get married and i dont wanna go into the marrige with in-law problems .or even just a flat out problem with his mom before the marrige!!! help!! what do i do. i'm scared to talk to her. Reply to this Question
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reader, Granny +, writes (14 January 2007):
 Hello love, there is your first mistake. Don't be afraid to talk to your future Mum-in-law. You are very young to be thinking of marriage but if that's what you and your boy want, then go for it. But go for it in peace, take his Mum some candy or flowers, let her know you are serious in your relationship but the jokes are just on paper! Please don't leave it too long. She will respect you for addressing the question earlier rather than later. It's hard but it will be worth it. She is probably worried because you are so young.
All the best xxx
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reader, Comet star  +, writes (14 January 2007):
erm, just explain the situation to her. if she is a decent person she will understand and see the joke to it. then tell ur b/f not to leave evidence lying around. but seriously u need to sort this.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (14 January 2007):
 Show this mother that you're a mature and wonderful person. Call her and tell her that the note was only meant as a joke and that you're so sorry she was upset by it. Tell her you love and respect her son and that you both agree with sex before marriage is wrong and that you've been so sad to have upset someone who you see as a role model. Hopefully she'll be so overcome by your maturity that she'll start to like you again in time, but don't hope for immediate results.
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reader, lena +, writes (14 January 2007):
 hmm me and my boyfriend are finding problems, before i was 16 my nan found a condom packet and acused me of having sex, when all it was, was me and my friend was messing about blowing them up. but i could see where my nan was coming from, i mean if i had a daughter with a condom packet i'd think the same. just think how his mum is feeling, talk to her about it, if you are grown up enough to have a joke you have to be grown up enough to go face to face with his mum and say sorry. just knock on her door and ask if you can have a word with her, say it was only a joke and i'm not planning on having sex until i am married. i'm sure she will be greatful that you have spoke to her maturely.
good luck xxxxxx don't freak!
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