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writes:Ok so when me and my boyfriend were together he told me not to talk to his bestfriend because he said he just uses girls...i started talking to him and after me and my boyfriend broke up me and my now ex boyfriend decided to hang out...so i went over to his house to stay a few nights...the friend he didnt want me talking to was there and him and i started getting feelings for eachother..him and i made out and almost had sex...now me and him are really close and plan on hanging out again and going to the fair...he said we should remeber condoms and im like yes we should because we both really wanna do this...my olny problem is that he has a girlfriend and he wont choose between me and her...he asked me the other day to move with him after he finishes collage and i finish highschool...im 15 and going to be a sophmore...hes 17 and gonna be a senior he leaves for collage next fall...he says he loves me and never wants to lose me...what do i do...i need help majorly on this
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reader, Hailielynn +, writes (9 August 2011):
Hailielynn is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks everyone...and to anonymous i do have self respect and i do have friends i just fall for the wrong people....and i never said his gf treated him bad....@ MissTellAll..thanks hun i think i should just think about this and think about him and what would happen if i was in his girlfriends [email address blocked] should talk to his gf about stuff...she does seem like a really sweet person..my olny problem is that i dont get along with girls very good because all we do is fight and argue...thats why like all my friends are guys
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (4 August 2011):
 Boy Howdy, I officially declare August 4th to be "I am being used for sex" day. Just look at all these postings!
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reader, babygirllovej  +, writes (4 August 2011):
 There is a reason why your ex warned you to stay away from him. Unfortunately you did not listen to the advice and now you have a problem.
First of all, this guy is using you. He does not love you and certainly does not want to move in with you. He has a girlfriend and of course he won't choose. He's getting sex and without his girlfriend knowing. These types of teenagers are cheaters and are not ready for a relationship.
I'm surprised you don't feel guilty or used by his behavior.
Regardless, he has a girlfriend. He is NOT single or available. Which means that you should stop being the other girl that he is just using to have sex with.
If you want you can warn his girlfriend what he has been up to but it is not required and is better for you to stay out of it. I highly doubt you are the only girl on the side that he is sleeping with.
My advice is to stop letting him use you and get away from him. What kind of a boyfriend cheats on his girlfriend? That is exactly what he would do to you if you were his girlfriend. Leave now before his girlfriend finds out and you are dragged into a huge mess.
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reader, MissTellAll +, writes (4 August 2011):
 He's cheating with you. Do you really want to start a relationship like that?
He sounds a lot like a guy I knew. He's a seventeen year old guy who is being led by his d**k and not his heart.
If he can cheat on you he can cheat with you. Don't let him exploit you, and if you do end up with him and he cheats... you can't really act surprised.
Plus, you're just going to be a sophomore. Calm down.
Listen, I'm not saying this like 'I am much older I am your superior, I'm sixteen. If you've already had sex well that's your own choice, I won't condemn you from something I myself have done. If you haven't then I would advise not having sex with this guy. Even if you have, I still wouldn't advise having sex with him.
Sex is something special that should be cherished and not thrown around, at least in my opinion. If he won't even be in a committed relationship with you then don't let him use you.
How would you feel if you were in his girlfriend's position? Pretty freaking awful, right?
I am in no way putting blame on you, I'm just saying look at this from every perspective.
Let him go. He seems like bad news and you'll only end up like his girlfriend is now; clueless while he tries to have sex with another girl.
Hope this helped.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2011): hi there,
wow... ever heard of self respect...?
1. You are too young to be having sex... clearly... I mean to me you sound really naive about this. (naive means lacking worldy experience)
2. He is just telling you what you want to hear so that he can have sex with you AND THATS IT. It happens to all women (girls) and you learn over time to deal with it... but you are far to young to even see it... which is scary to me.
3. Also a set of morals wouldnt go astray here... many people get away with treating other people like utter garbage because of people like you... he has a girlfriend... he may tell you that shes horrible to him and shes no good but in reality she may be a really nice person whos done nothing wrong to anyone and he may be the bad guy.
have you no friends? do you not only not care about yourself but about anyone else either?
I personally feel you need to get a grip sack this boy off and get some self respect.
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