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writes: I have been with my boyfriend for about a year and 4 months and in the beginning everything was really good. He used to be really sweet and tell me that he loved me more than anything and that I meant everything to him, but recently I've discovered that he only said those things because they seemed like a "nice, harmless comment". He says he loves me, but I know I'm not the most important thing in his life like I once thought I was; he says that his cats are more important to him and fantasy books or more important to him. I know this sounds ridiculous, but I get really upset that he says he loves cats more than me. Since I'm always so angry and bitter towards him, he thinks I'm cheating or looking for someone else but he doesn't understand that all I want is to be important to him - he just claims I want too much. I keep thinking about ending it, but the only thing stopping me is the fact I honestly love him. I need to know whether I'm overreacting. Reply to this Question
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reader, Helen1986  +, writes (19 September 2006):
 I think that you should sit him down and talk. Tell him that you feel unimportant and unloved.
You deserve to be respected and I am afraid he is not respecting you.
If his attitude doesnt change then leave him, he will realise he loves you more when you are gone because the cats and books cant do the things for him that you did.
Good luck
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (19 September 2006):
 No you are certainly NOT overreacting!
He needs to assess his priorities in life and realise that he can always get cats, but love from an actual human being is hard to come by, and as for the 'fantasy books,' well, that is just plain immature...he can't have a relationship with those now, can he!!
Tell him to come back when he gets his act together an grows up!
You deserve better than this!
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