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*ffeoluwa
writes:A month before he met me, he met a girl and he started dating her. It was after sometime that he left the girl because of me not knowing the girl is pregnant for him, now that the girl is back into his life with an unborn baby, i dont know what to do, because he always tells me to be relaxed that there is no problem whatsoever that the he is just accepting the baby not both of them. Is it true? Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (3 May 2011):
 In theory it's true, he wants to do the right thing and be there for his child ,he does not want or have to be sexually or emotionally involved with the mother. Nothing wrong with that.
In practice, I'd be very uncomfortable about the timing of the thing.
In just one month he manages to like a girl, date her, get her pregnant ( very irresponsible ! ) get fed up with her, decide he likes you better, dump her and take up with you.
Uhm. These things happen, but more often than not they happen to superficial , flighty people who is into instant gratification and first act on their impulses then think.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (3 May 2011):
 I think it makes sense. He wants to be there for the child wether he loves this girl or not. It's good to hear that he is supportive instead of just running away. You should be concerned if they spend too much time together but him checking up on her is just him caring about the child.
Indirectly he has to accept her and they will be forever connected in this way but that doesn't mean he has feelings for her. I'm thinking that he cares for her for the reasons you have said but would not go back to her to be in a relationship.
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