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writes:please can someone help me because i really dont know what to do! my boyfriend and i had been together for just four months and he knew i was no where near ready for sex, even though im 16 and legal n all that i didnt feel physically ready for it! he told me he didnt want me for sex, he wanted to be with me because he had feelings for me, we had known each other for a couple of years before we got together! then on O1-1O-O8 we went out to the cinema, and we didnt get back to his until like 11:30, so he told me to just stay at his place instead of payin £12 for a taxi, his parents were out for the night so i could stayed in his room and he would stay in theirs, i thought it was really nice of him at the time so i said i would. i was layed in his bed and he came into his room, he sat on the edge of the bed and started talkin to me and he put his hand in my unnderwear, i kinda liked it so i let him carry on, we ended up playin with each other n stuff and we ended up nearly sleeping together, he knew i wasnt on the pill or owt and he said he didnt wanna use a condom, i told him if we didnt use a condom then i wasnt sleeping with him! he had a go at me and we ended up havin an arguement and he slapped me, he three me on the bed and held me down while he put himself inside me! i asked him to get off he and he told me no! but then he was only inside me for like a minute so i was releaved! i got dressed and i phoned for a taxi! he was shoutin me tellin me to stay but i didnt know what to do, i didnt talk to him for like a week but then he phoned me and we kinda sorted things out, but then i found out at the begining of last week i was pregnant! id only had sex that one time?! i didnt think after a minute it would be possible to be pregnant, but then i spoke to my friend and she told me, as we had foreplay and stuff earlier on he would of already.. well she explain to me it was possible! ive taken four tests now, theyre all positive, i told my boyfriend on thursday that i was pregnant and he hit me again, told me i was a silly little slag! i should of been on the pill, its not his fault he doesnt like condoms and its not his problem im pregnant, told me to get a life and grow up! im not stuck pregnant! boyfriendless! lonely! i feel so pathetic and stupid! i dont dare tell my mum she'll kill me! i dont know what to do!! please someone please help me!! :( btw my names chelsie
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwhen i said 01-10-2008 that means, day-month-year....
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2008): Sorry to read ur story and my heart goes out to you. You are from England so 01 10 08 means Jan 10 2008 (not October 1 2008) - if January how can you just find out you are pregnant? Was it October? We need to know because this impacts decisions on keeping baby, abortion, morning after pill. Also your guy's a jerk (sorry).
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reader, LovesJamie +, writes (9 November 2008):
First of all it sounds like your boyfriends the one who needs to grow up, he sounds like a total idiot and very selfish. Im sorry to tell you this but he doesnt love you. If he did he would have stayed in his parents room like he said he was going to, he would not of touched you without asking you and he would not of raped you because yes he did rape you. He is a disgusting criminal, he had every intention of having sex with you that night weather you agreed or not, he also hit you twice which you should tell your mum about along with the fact he raped you and got you pregnant and then told you its not his fault,this little boy is trying to get you to think its your fault so that you dont tell anyone because he is scared. Your mum should not be angry because you did not choose to do any of this, she will most likely be angry with him and disgusted but should understand that this is in no way your fault. Have a long talk with your mum and decide what to do next together, you need all the support you can get at this stage in your life. If you keep this baby then good luck to you and your baby and I hope this little boy gets what he deserves.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (3 November 2008):
 Sweetie, this guy raped you and hit you! You need to tell your mom what happened. This not your fault! But by talking to him and 'sorting things out' it has reinforced in his mind that what he did was okay, he might try it with you again [if he gets you alone] or with other girls. Please stay away from him.. and tell your mom what happened.
Honeygirl
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reader, Kuroneko  +, writes (3 November 2008):
Hun, this isn't your fault and you need to tell an adult you trust. Number one, the fact that he slapped you and was so rough with you means he's abusive and you should not be with him, even if that may be a hard thing to do. Secondly, that was totally rape, and that is NOT right. He is completely at fault, and you need to tell someone.
Be strong.
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reader, SugarCookie  +, writes (3 November 2008):
You need to tell your mom she wont be mad because you were raped. Since the guy seems to be such an A_ hole I would press raped charges. He doesn't have feelings for you and he thinks your feelings for him will protect him. Dont protect him. Press charges! As for the baby thats a talk you need to have with yourself and your mom. I promise your mom wont be upset!!
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (3 November 2008):
 WoW! i am so sorry you are going through this. But you need to tell your mom. you are still underage and her responsiblitly. Of course at first she will get mad at first, but then her instinct will kick in and she will want to protect you. Don't go through this alone.
I hope that you broke up with this loser. He slapped you and I can't believe you worked it out with him. You said NO and he still forced himself on you.
If he won't take responsiblity for what he's done, than you need to force it upon him. Tell an adult. The truth needs to be told and he needs to be accountable.Don't be scared. If you hide this, then he will win. Don't let fear stop you from doing the right thing
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008): hello, if you have been pregnant for longer than a month theres a pill what you can get from the docters. that happend wid me and my girlfriend we dint use a condom, but if u go docters you can get a pill that gets rid of the baby. and for your ex boyfriend he sounds like a complete twat leave him out your life. hope everything goes ok...
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008): Rape? yeap.... Rape. No sweetie its not your fault, best thing to do is tell your mom. Sure she'll be upset, but its best if you did. He shouldnt of done it if he has feelings for you. He has no right to strike you in anyway. Talk to your mom about want happend.
Best of luck sweetie
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