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female
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36-40,
*stefx
writes:for the past week my relationship with my boyfriend seems to getting worse. he just seemed to be really distant. last night he picked me up after work. and i asked him what was wrong and he said he has been thinking about us. and said he just came out of a 2 year relationship and then got with me. he felt like he wasted 2 years with his ex, and missed out on alot, and that he doesn't feel ready for a long term relationship. he told me he still loves me and that he still wants to see me, and that he needs some space and time to think. does that mean we're never gonna get back together, or what? i'm just so heartbroken and i can't stop crying. he was the only guy i have ever loved this way. i just don't know what to do
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reader, Xstefx +, writes (3 February 2007):
Xstefx is verified as being by the original poster of the question the most upsetting thing is his already started txting another girl, its breaking my heart
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reader, AskEve +, writes (3 February 2007):
 It DOES seem as if your boyfriend is having second thoughts about his relationship with you. Maybe he feels you're wanting to get too serious too soon (you don't say how long you've been together.)
Talk to him and ask him if he wants to break up with you or does he just need some space to get his head together. Let him know you're willing to cool things for a while (including no sex) and be friends with him if he thinks the relationship is getting too serious.
He may agree to that or he may say he'd prefer to end it, in which case you'll need to respect his decision and move on. Would you not rather know the truth than continue going out with a man who can't love you the way you deserve to be loved and maybe holds resentment inside?
Eve
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2007): You need to let him have his space. If he has just come out of a relationship then he is on the rebound anyway, so let him have time to think this one through, but not forever. Why don't you both walk away from each other until the spring, have at least two months off. You may feel differently when you've had some space to think. You cannot force someone to be with you and like you. If he does love you then he will be back after just a couple of weeks but give him that space or he will just go anyway.
Take care
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2007): You need to let him have his space. If he has just come out of a relationship then he is on the rebound anyway, so let him have time to think this one through, but not forever. Why don't you both walk away from each other until the spring, have at least two months off. You may feel differently when you've had some space to think. You cannot force someone to be with you and like you. If he does love you then he will be back after just a couple of weeks but give him that space or he will just go anyway.
Take care
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2007): Give him space, he needs time too think. Stick by him and support him don't throw a fit. Give it a week and then confront him and see what he says.
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