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writes:Ok need some advice on a few things. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a little over a year. He has always said that he loves having sex with me but wishes I would get more involved. I had major issues getting involved because of some issues in my past, however through communication we worked through it. Now we have started using toys and stuff to try to open me up and the sex has gotten 100 percent better. On the other hand I still have a few issues. He is willing to do absolutely anything to please me. No matter what it is. When he asks me about fantasys of mine I can't think of any because of my past sex was something I didnt fantasize about. So I would like some advice on new things to try. To give you an idea of what we have done and like, we have done anal, anal with a toy while hes in me, and fisting. thats not everything obviously but those were our favorites. Anything else you think we would like?Also he has said over and over that he would love to have a threesome and me be touching the other girl. so finally I said I would think about it if it was another guy. He agreed to it. Then I said that if he was expecting me to touch the girl he would have to touch the guy. He said he would do oral on the guy if I wanted him to and would do anything else I wanted. If we do this, does it make him bi? Like he has said that he has never been with a guy nor would he ever be with one unless it was for me and with me. So would he be straight or bi?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2010): Maybe my logic is too simple but to me. If my straight parter was ok having sex with another guy i would imagine that made him bisexual. Same as if two women had sex together. Surely that makes them lesbian or bisexual. If it doesnt. Then im totally lost as to what straight sex means these days. Personally i think straight sex is having sex with someone of the OPPOSITE sex. Anything involving a member of the same sex is gay/bisexual
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reader, AlaMich88 +, writes (29 January 2010):
Its weird when there is girl-on-girl action because us girls are never considered gay or bi.....its just hot n sexi to guys but when it comes to guy-on-guy then most think of them as gay or bi. Weird how it plays out. But I personally throw up at the thought of my man givin another man head (((but not at all would I think that is gay or a bi thing. Its good to spice things up a bit if that's what ur into)))lol,but I get turned on when I think about me and another girl. I don't know on this one. Its clear he would do anything for you and I think that's where he was gettin at when he said that. As for the 3some thing....DON'T DO IT!! Just my opioion from my experience.....it was all in fun when my boyfriend and I would talk about having 3 somes and what we would do to the other, but to actuallu go through with it was the dumbest thing I could have ever done! My bf and I have been together for almost 4 years and it was just over the summer that we decided to have my friend join in and I hated it. Throughout the whole thing I absolutley hated it! For a long time after I couldn't help but picture him F*cking her, him kissing her, her goin down on him and so on...it killed me! It really did! If I could take it back I would in a heartbeat! Talkin about fantasies is one thing but actually sharing your man with another girl....is heartbraking. Then again you might like it. I can at least say I tried it once and man o man was that good enough for me. Good luck girl, keep me updated!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok LonelyTwo I have reread and reread all my posts, the one thing I see that makes you partially right is something I didn't notice until now. In my first response back to the answers I had received I said "But at the same time talking about it is what made me wonder if he was bi or bi curious or whatever" when instead I should have clarified that I did not think it would make him bi or bi curious until HE brought it up. The thought never crossed my mind until he asked me to think about it because he feels like he should/would be considered bi. Once again in my mind he is still Straight. So the problem lies with the way I view it and he views it, therefore I asked for others opinions. I am sorry for the confusion and hope this clears up exactly why the "bi" question was asked.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIn response to LonelyTwo, no I don't see that I am flip flopping. In my original post I said I would CONSIDER it if it was a guy, not that I would DO IT. We do talk about it as a fantasy and enjoy talking about it, doesn't mean that we would do it. I don't think he is gay for talking about it or even doing it. He is the one that asked me if I felt like he would be bi if we did it and I said no I still believe he would be straight. He on the other hand thinks that he would then be looked at as bi, which is why I asked other peoples opinions to see if most thought like me or like him. And I didn't say we just talk about it for fun I just simply said we that we do enjoy and have fun talking about it, that doesn't mean that we are talking about just in fun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your response. We have talked about the issues with having a threesome and those reasons are why I am not willing to let it happen right now, anytime soon, or ever. Either way we both agree that it is fun to talk about and continue to talk about it. But at the same time talking about it is what made me wonder if he was bi or bi curious or whatever. He knows that chances are it will never happen and is ok with that. He was just trying to help give me ideas of what he could do for me while showing me that he really is willing to do whatever it takes to make me happy. The problem is it doesn't matter what he does I am always overly satisfied and am always happy. On the other hand since he is willing to do ANYTHING I would like to come up with something that we can do with just me and him but when I try to think of something I can't. Any advice on that issue of the question?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2010): It doesn't make him bisexual. Bisexual is when you are attracted to both genders, and he has already said he wouldn't be with a guy if it wasn't for you. I think he's just willing to do it, like you said, because he will do anything to please you. And he doesn't mind too much. Maybe he's bi-curious, that means he's not that into it but curious about what its like and would like to try it out perhaps one or two times.
Don't think too much about this though, he's with you and not anyone else, so why try to label him.
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reader, bridgett +, writes (29 January 2010):
ok so from what I just read you two get a little freaky (not that there is any thing wrong with that) so answer this do you think you would consider yourself bi if you two had a threesome with another girl and you did things to her only because you knew he would like it if no then do not consider him bi plus if it is something you want then feel lucky he is willing to do it if I was you I would start figuring out what guy I was going to pick to have this fun with
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