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writes:Alright...I started feeling a little itch. This weird feeling came over me one day when we were together. It was doubt. I mean not from my own feelings but from him. I don't know why but I did. The next few days I began to think and think about the possible thoughts in his head. And yesterday I spent the day with him....you know just a normal day. When I went home all I thought about was him and how I felt. The morning I woke up bc I had a bad dream...I texted him and I told him and he was sympathetic. Then the question came to the surface...I asked him, "I want to ask you a question. Are ur feelings for me in the right place bc I like you a lot and I don't wanna go in neck-deep without being sure its worth it." He didn't answer back. I called his buddy and he said he would talk to him. He called and he just said, "I'm sorry. I'm sorry...I'm sorry." Tears were rolling down my face. And I said, "what are you sorry for?" and he said, "because I'm not sure. I have mixed feelings for you. I like you...I'm head over heels for you but I don't want to promise you anything until I know its for sure. I don't want a serious relationship until I know my head is in the right place. I don't want to put you though hell when I'm here confused. And I don't want to lie to you. I'm young and dumb...I just need time to think about us. I pray there will be a future with us and I hope your feelings don't fail for me. I'm young and I wanna enjoy everything of it." I said, "that's why we're seeing each other. I'm not asking you to drop the world for me. I'm not asking you to leave your friends. I just don't want to hurt over things that aren't worth it." He said, "I'm not worth it?" and I said, "you're worth everything I got but its not worth being stuck in the middle between liking you and being a friend if there's nothing there." We talk more and we decided to see a light to the future. I like him soo much but it hurts to know I don't have him now. Should I wait? Is he worth all my trouble?
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reader, fairhalflin +, writes (1 March 2007):
fairhalflin is verified as being by the original poster of the question Today we were texting each other and I asked him how he was doing...he said,"Here and there. Bored. How about you?"I said,"Here and there. Gears of war and things you wouldn't care about."He said, "Like what?"I said,"Nah nah, it would get ackward."He said, "Just tell me."I said,"I miss you."He said,"Why"I said,"I don't know...I just do :( I'm sorry."He said, "You don't have to be sorry. So you really do miss me? I do too"I said,"I don't know what I was expecting."He said, "Expecting what?"I said,"When I started liking you."He said,"Don't be mad at yourself."I said, "I prayed every night that my heart won't break again."He said,"Don't be mad at your self ok? I care about you."I said,"I didn't want this to happen to me. I didn't want to like you. I didn't want all of this but it happened. If I could I wouldn't have felt anything for you but I did. I fell hard for some reason. I'm sorry. I'm sorry"He said,"So...you didn't want to like me?"I said,"I was scared to get into anything bc I didn't want the feeling of getting heart-broken again. But I took a chance bc I wanted to be happy. I didn't ask for this to happen. I'm saying that if I had known I would feel like this I would have stopped my feeling for you there."He said, "Don't do this...don't say it has to be like that...well I'm sorry I ruined your life."I said, "its not that...you did nothing wrong. I never blamed you...its just my stupid feelings."He said, "So...I was a mistake?"I said,"I'm sorry I put this in your shoulders...I'm not expecting you back. You were never a mistake...you were perfect. That's why it hurts me, I fell for you and I don't take it back. You made me feel happy. But I want you to know that you never did anything wrong. Things happen for a reason. I took a chance with you because at 1st I didn't want a relationship but I took a chance bc I wanted to be happy. I'm willing to wait for you...but I'm scared to forget you. You see where my dilemma is? I don't want to stop liking you even if it hurts to not have you. :("He said,"Just think positive...I need to think more."That's where we are left...Is there hope or no hope?
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT  +, writes (26 February 2007):
 Hi babe,
He has been honest with you and thats really all you can ask for in a man so thats a good start...As for waiting for him well that all depends on how you feel about him, just give him a bit of time and space, you are both young and have loads to experience yet...
I think you should carry on as normal but go out with your friends give yourself a time limit to see if things improve if they don't then I suggest you have to accept the fact and move on...I am sorry to have to be truthful babe but your life and feelings are the most important in your life, but at least he has been truthful, maybe he does feel the same way and it just hasn't hit him yet who knows men do tend to be a lot slower than us ladies LOL
Godd luck I really wish you all the very best babe,
Let me know how you get on sweet
xxxxx
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