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41-50,
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writes:What does it means when your bf text message you with: "I am bored of us".." every day is the same..."hi..good morning.. good night.." . I am in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend..and we talk on the phone; but lately he's been very busy and so I am..sometime we have different schedules and can't talked that often..but that comment left me devastating. I think that was really mean of him. He really hurted me. I sent him a txt messg. back saying: maybe we should stop that for good, and so that you don't get bored... I don't want to talk to him.. I am hurt and he is always hurting me with his comments and I don't like that...I am a very sensitive girl and I cry for the simples thing and I am crying right now... any advice on what do I do?
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reader, rcn +, writes (4 October 2007):
 If he keeps hurting you, than why take it. You don't deserve for him to treat you that way. You deserve better. Say goodbye to him and find someone who is going to treat you special. The way he's being is not that of someone who is in a loving relationship. Why do so many women settle for less? This question often drives me nuts.
How many times does it take you to put your hand on fire to realize it hurts and you don't want to put your hand their again. Do the same with your feelings. Don't allow the hurt, and if someone does, they're not worth your time. You're too important to have someone treat you less than the best.
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reader, On Cloud9  +, writes (3 October 2007):
 My initial thought was he sounds awful for being so calleous and cold hearted. You don't deserve to be treated like this and if you let him lower you self confidence, you will end up a shadow of your former self.
People do get bored in relationships from time to time and thats down to your both - not just you! I imagine it is even harder to keep a long distance relationship going but if he was decent to you and said he wanted to spice things up, I am sure you would have tried all sorts of things, but again this works both ways.
I am sorry you are going through so much pain over this but I honestly think that he will continue to cause you pain, if it's not this then it will be something else - like you say he is always hurting you with his comments. You are no-bodys emotional punch bag, so I advise you to bear with yoru decision to stop talking to him and continue living your own life until you meet someone that is truly deserving your attention.
I know that sounds easier than it is, I think it takes a lot of courage to make that kind of decision and stick to it and I wish you every success with that if thats what you decide to do. If you decide to speak to him, then remind him that it takes two to make a relationship work and you are perpared to spice things up if he is.
Good luck with this and free to get in touch if you need to let off steam x
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