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writes:HiMy husband and I have been together for five years and have both said we would like kids. My husband said originally he would like kids by 30 (6 months ago). Since then we have discussed it reguarly and he says yes, then when the day comes for me to come off the pill - he does a big U-turn. He is very involved in his career (a drummer, in a recently signed band). I want to support his career, but am feeling like our future plans are being put on hold constantly for his personal pursuits. Should I stick around and wait for him to make his decision?
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reader, goodlistener +, writes (8 June 2007):
I believe you should sit down with your husband and ask him what he really wants. If he doesn't want to have children at all thats your call, at least you know, and you are not waiting around waiting for something that is not going to happen. If he says he does want children then at least you are on the right track. Then you need to remind him, he and yourself are not getting any younger. Some men get scared because it is something new. But he has done the biggest commitment by getting married to you, the next step is just a part of marrige.Good luck honey x.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (8 June 2007):
 Yes, stick around. This is one small problem. If I'm honest, the fact that you would leave him over this makes me wonder if your relationship is strong enough for kids. There must be a compromise in there somewhere. Maybe agree that now isn't the right time but tell him you'd love to have kids in the next two years and that if you compromise for him now will he compromise for you then or has he changed his mind about kids. Make sure your relationship is rock solid before you even consider a baby though.
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