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writes:Hiya, i wrote to here about 2 months ago when i just found out i was pregnant. (I'm 17 and wasn't sure what to do and the father really wanted the baby) well since then we decided to keep the baby but i am now 4 months and the last few weeks he has been going off with his single friends and girls and one night even z lets call it a day. i don't want him to think i NEED him (though i probably do now with the baby) this isnt right but every time i try and talk 2 him he laughs or leaves me, please help me i have no idea what to do. Thanku Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2007): Yes, you do need to talk to him. As the other poster says, he has an obligation to support the baby financially - FOR THE NEXT 20 YEARS, but NO obligation to support you emotionally.
Are you sure you want to do this? You are very young to take this on, you know.
You still have the option to have an abortion, if that is what you think best, but you should go ahead immediately. Either that, or give the child up for adoption. That would be extremely difficult, but might be best for you and the baby......
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reader, cd206 +, writes (8 June 2007):
 Well the problem is that however much he promises to be around and to support you, at the end of the day he can walk away from this and you can't. I don't think there's anything wrong with him wanting to spend time with his friends before the baby comes as long as he's committed to you. You're leaving it very late to have an abortion now so you need to talk to him seriously as soon as possible or start considering adoption if you don't think you can cope alone. Your boyfriend is obligated to support the baby financially but he doesn't have to support you emotionally so you need to be really sure that you can do this alone, as well as with him.
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