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writes:Hello dear Aunts and Uncles,So, i have recently met a new friend (about a month ago)... The thing is i like him as more than a friend... the other thing is i don't know if there are any chances he might like me back...The night we met he gave me a ride home and we stopped the Car and talked for like 2 hours, until sunrise and he asked for my Number to hang out again. We spoke 2 days later and went out again with him and his friends. after that we kept calling each other, one time we spoke for an hour (just chatted, about nothing in particular) and we kept going out with a friend of his. he also asked me my fb name and i added him, and then asked for it again next time we spoke because he couldn't seem to find me. after we got that fb thing worked out he strarted talking to me on fb every day (he still does). And also we went out alone a couple of times to hang out. Last week i did something stupid and made out with his frienemy, i know it was stupid but he had said that he would never sleep with a fat girl and i got a bit sad (i am about 200 lbs even though i don't look that fat, i am hourglass and look definately less than my weight). The next day he picked me up from home to keep him company while he Works out and asked me about what happened with the other guy and asked me if we are together with the guy or not. Also he let me know he never takes anyone to the place he Works out and i am the First girl he took there.That same day he also took me to another of his "secret places" to hang out, it was absolutelely beautiful... Also we spend valentine's day together, hanging out and working out (he took me to yet another "secret place"), and the next day too... He is being very sweet to me, holding my hand some times, making plans about stuff we can do together, meeting my parents, wants me to meet his family and friends too, joking about being a couple sometimes (but lately he has stopped doing that), talking for hours.... he also said that he loves my company... But, he also becomes mean to me sometimes... and he also wants me to invite a girl he found interesting to hang out next weekend and now he is with some other girl doing ...stuff... so i guess i am in the friend zone?.... what do you guys think?... is there any chance?...Thank you in advance for your help Reply to this Question
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (17 February 2014):
 Like the other aunt and uncles suggested just ask him to clarify the status of the relationship. Also you best you know where you stand than be strung along and develop feelings only to find out he is not into u. Take the risk as you have nothing to lose.
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reader, DragonMan  +, writes (17 February 2014):
 Greetings,
Such a case can only be dealt with in one of three ways,
1.) Ignore this and enjoy the time you spend together.
2.) Tell him how you feel and get this feeling of unease out of the way.
3.) Walk away altogether
Being friend-zoned is indeed painful however the responsibility is on you. You cannot expect this guy to be a mind reader so tell him how you feel. Once you have your results then consider your course of action.
However your actions with his 'frienemy' might indicate to him that you aren't sexually attracted to him and therefore he needs to look elsewhere
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reader, Alba5 +, writes (17 February 2014):
I'd ask him straight out what he thinks of you. If you carry on the way you do you're going to read into it too much and might get hurt if this other girl is a potential girl friend. Getting with his frienemy? Well at least he knows other people are attracted and interested in you.Just play it cool and if you get the answer you didn't want just reply...cool I'm glad we got that out of the way and tell him you prefer to be his friend too.
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reader, Roboaxe  +, writes (17 February 2014):
 Ouch. Making out with the other guy was not a good call.
There is a surefire way to know if he is NOT interested in you romantically. And that is:
He talks about other girls in front of you. A guy will NEVER talk about another girl in front of the girl he likes.
And just so you know, guys don't typically "friendzone" women, unless they are unavailable. The mere fact he is making an effort to continue hanging out with you is a good sign.
Good luck!
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reader, wishfulsoul  +, writes (17 February 2014):
I think he likes you, maybe he was hurt about you getting it together with this other guy.
I think you should be straight with him, tell him you like him, and ask him if he feels the same way, because if you don't ask him, he will just find somebody else anyway, and that will disappoint you, and if you do ask him and he doesn't like you, that will disappoint you too, so your not really loosing out on anything, because there might be a chance he does like you, go for it and ask him, that's the only way you'll know, and you shouldn't worry about what he thinks of your weight, he obviously doesn't see you how you think he sees you.
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