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He said he loved me, but had commitment issues to work on. Help!

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Question - (23 March 2010) 4 Answers - (Newest, 23 March 2010)
A female Australia age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Me And My Ex Bf Have Been Together A Year And A Bit, We Fight All The Time, Due To The Fact He Lives 15 Hours Away From Me, But Comes And Stays With Me Often, His Family Hate My Guts, Even Tho I've Never Spoken To Them Really, And They Are All Close Like They Need To Be Together Everyday.... I Went To Visit Them For The First Time And My Bf Treated Me Horribly.. Left Me out In The Rain, Pushed Me Around, Wouldnt Spent A Day With Me.. But At Night Time Was Always Saying He Was Sorry And Crying That He Didnt Mean It... Eventually I Had Enough And Went Home... 2 Weeks Passed And He Kept trying To Call And Email Me Saying He Wanted To Be With Me.. So He Came Back To Me Which Caused A HUGE Fight within The Family.. He Stayed With Me For About 7 Weeks,Not Contacting Them For Anything, We Talked About Moving In Together.. And He Agreed Saying he Needed To Go Get His Stuff And Would Come Back.. However He Never Came Back.. He Called 4 Days After Leaving And Dumped Me... And Then Called A Week Later to Say He loved Me And Wanted To Be With Me...But Had Commitment Issues He Wants To Work On Before Getting Back Into The Relationship.. Now 5 Days Later.. I Havent Heard A Word From Him??

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (23 March 2010):

eyeswideopen agony auntI started reading this but the caps just made my eyes spin in circles...had to give up

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A female reader, Joeyxxox United Kingdom +, writes (23 March 2010):

Joeyxxox agony auntIt sounds like his family are quite controlling and if they hate you for no reason that's a bit unfair and he should stick up for you.

He treated you terribly when you stayed with him, you must have been scared meeting his family and he wasn't there for you.

And yeah he might be sorry afterwards, but what good is that? he shouldn't have behaved that way in the first place.

It seems like he messes you about way to much, if you really want to be with him you need to talk to him and ask him why he acts that way.

But at the end of the day, do you really want someone who you don't know where you stand with?

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A female reader, Gasolina Canada +, writes (23 March 2010):

Gasolina agony auntGood thing he doesn't live close, because then you won't have far to run. What are you thinking? This just has seriously dysfunctional written all over it. If you are not accepted by his family, you have no future. If you fight all the time, you have no future. If he is abusive, and then apologetic, in a cyclical pattern, you have no future. When you walked away, that was good. Go with that.

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A female reader, Entirely Unique United Kingdom +, writes (23 March 2010):

Entirely Unique agony auntI don't understand why his family dis-like you so much when they hadn't met you, there must be something he's not telling you regarding that, maybe he's been telling them things that has caused them to dis-like you.

He's messing you around, I would just distance yourself from him and not even consider a relationship with him until he's sorted himself out for good.

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