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writes: I had an affair with a guy that has a girlfriend because he told me he really loved me and that he was going to leave her. Now that I think I am pregnant by him. He swears to her that it ain't his and that he don't love me. What should I do?
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reader, Jackie +, writes (3 November 2005):
Get out while you can! If this guy is telling you he loves you and wants to be with you, and also telling his other girl the same thing and saying the baby isn't his, you need to leave that situation, cause it could get ugly! This guy defintly has commitment issues and doesn't know what to do in a tuff situation! Leave him and move on cause if he can't live to his responsiblities than he won't be able to in a relationship with you in the future!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2005): You have made a baby with a man who doesn’t want to be with you or the baby. It does not matter how much you love him, he will never be there for you or the baby in the way a mother, and child need and deserve to be loved and cherished. Time to move on and for you to make plans for this baby. You have a few options. You keep it or you can put this child up for adoption.
I suggest you seriously think of giving the baby two loving parents and a chance for a good future. Place it for adoption. Many agencies will care for you and the baby and make sure it has a good home. The agencies will house you during your pregnancy, find your baby a good home, and give you counseling.
If you keep the child, you must make plans to provide for the child on your own. Once it's proven this man is she legal father, he will have to be financially and morally respeonsible for the baby's well-being, as well.
Make a decision that is the best for your child and you. Get some counselling to get support and help from the many
agencies out there, designed to help unwed Mothers. Good Luck and take care
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (2 November 2005):
 It is probably a bit too late to preach about not going with someone who already has a girlfriend as you can't always believe what they say and their promises, that they aren't trustworthy to be doing it in the first place, that if they really thought anything of you, they would make sure they weren't with someone else and were with you...the list goes on.
He is confirming just how untrustworthy he is and basically he is simply not worth bothering with. Unfortunately, their relationship is doomed to failure because of what a deceitful liar he is.
You need to think of you and what you are going to do next. He is not a priority. He will not stand by you so you need to stand by yourself.
Get confirmation first and foremost of your pregnancy and then consider what you wish to do. Receive as much help and support that you can from friends and family and make a decision based on you and your baby but don't include him in it.
Good luck.
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