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writes: HI Everyone! I'm 21 and the man I love is 42. We get along on soo many levels! HE has concerns that he will "steal" my childhood away. I feel that I'm 21 and what childhood would he really be stealing? I love him so much... Is it ok for me to love someone so much older than I?Thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2005): You have everyminute of 22 years to live until you are caught up to him. If he were a real man, he would be looking for girls his own age. Believe it and run like hell!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2005): I was on here to ask the same question. I am 41 although i have always looked half my age. In high school i was that kid that still looked like he was in elementary school. a late bloomer and I have always dropped peoples jaws when they find out how old i am.Even my freinds have always been alot younger than me,,, I feel and look at this point 28- no one ever guesses my age to be over 28-30. i have battled over this as well, I have fallen madly in love with a girl who is 23 ,,, we have been talking about marriage, But somewhere the question for me comes up.... will it work? With that age difference. People get a weird look on their face when they hear the actuall number,,,, but i have learned that I Love this person, and feel confident that it can work... It doesnt matter what other people say...
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2005): Hi, At this moment in time I am in the exact same postion as yourself, I met this amazing lady on holiday, both got on so well, we have so much in common, Im 37, and she is 18. All my family a friends are dead against it, her side is the same, and I feel exactly the same as your fella, "stealing away her childhood". and small minded people really dont help in this sort of situation !!
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (2 November 2005):
 It is okay to love someone much older than yourself as long as you are aware of the pitfalls and understand each other.
Age gap relationships can work as longer as each person makes an allowance for the other and are aware of the stigma that many small minded people can generate.
Your man is concerned that he will prevent you from having fun because you are younger than him and this is a concern you will need to face together. Jealousy can arise and reassurances need to be made.
You may change as you grow older and he will have to make allowances for that and adapt.
However, if you share similiar interests and enjoy being together and want to share your future together then go for it!
Reassure him that it is okay for you to love him and that you don't feel he is stealing your childhood, only enhancing your future.
I wish you well.
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