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writes:me and my boyfriend hav just celebrated our 6 month anniversary and are very much in love, and he is also the sweetest guy ive met. Last night while we were having very intense sex after drinking a bit, he said the c word. Now he didnt call Me that name, rather he called my...you know lol that word. After sex he said that he hoped he didnt offend me and i said no. But now im wondering if i should be. He definitely treats me like a princess and doesnt call me names outside of sex and i dont mind being called dirty names in that contest. It doesnt bother me, other then im wondering if i should be bothered if that makes sense. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (22 February 2011):
 I am not a big fan of dirty talk myself yet I think that in certain moments it makes much more sense saying things like " I want to ... and ... your c***" rather than a more polite and much less passionate " I would enjoy to perform cunnilingus on you exquisite vulva ":)
So no, if out of the bedroom he is a gentleman, you should not be bothered by his bedroom language.
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reader, The Realist +, writes (22 February 2011):
 I don't think you should take offense to this as long as this doesn't translate to any other time expect that kind of intense sex. He was probably just in the mood and thought that dirty talk was ok. Him checking with you after seems like a really caring gesture.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2011): Every woman has a different opinion about that word. Now, only you can know how to feel about this, but personally, I think that, used in reference to one's genital area, it's not a big deal. As long as he says "I love your c***" and NOT "I love you, c***"...
NOT the same thing. I think it just falls into dirty talk.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2011): RELAX! Some of us like to use "rude" language when we're in the heat of passion. Referring to the part of the body I'm slamming myself into as a C*nt only seems natural during the act. Using medical terms (or worse Tantra terms) is not nearly as sexy and hot.
You need to put word play into your sex play and tell each other stories and see where your comfort levels are, and how to grow them... if you watch porn together you're going to hear quite a bit of the famous C word! Context is everything, and IMO in the bed with you privately gets a lot of special rights.
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