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writes:My boyfriend is really heartless about my feelings. When we have a argument he leaves and ignores all contact from me. Its sad to say but for some reason when I hold my ground and act like a b***h he seems to want me more. However at times when my feelings are hurt and Im crying, he is so mean and heartless. I love him so much but I really cant take much more.. Please any advice will help. Im hurting so bad at this time.Thanks,Stormyseason60 Reply to this Question
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (2 May 2012):
 Some men do actually prefer to be with a bitchy woman because it's just more of a challenge and often it can justify to them, their own bad behaviour (two wrongs making a right so to speak). If you act all hurt and try to show your true feelings, this means they have to work you out and they don't want to do that because they might end up being the 'bad guy'...and as we all know a lot of guys would rather tell themselves a million lies rather than admit to being the 'bad guy'.
When you are acting the bitch, he can cope with that, but he isn't willing to deal with the other side of you, so you have to consider if this is enough for you, or whether you need to give it up and find someone a little more sensitive to your needs.
You could try talking to him but he's really only going to hear you if you deliver in a calm together way...it might work but most people cannot change their intrinsic nature and you could be left wanting.
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reader, Sinful_thinker89 +, writes (2 May 2012):
 You say you love him? But how much do you love yourself? Why be with someone who takes from you instead if giving you a stable foundation? Men beat us because they think with thier brain and we think with our heart, if your heart cut off emotions and only your brain was transmitting messages, it would tell you leave or if you continue to put up with it, then stop complaining. You need to decipher, if you want to stat with a heartless man who doesn't acknowledge your feelings.
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