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writes:My boyfriend is really heartless about my feelings. When we have a argument he leaves and ignores all contact from me. Its sad to say but for some reason when I hold my ground and act like a b***h he seems to want me more. However at times when my feelings are hurt and Im crying, he is so mean and heartless. I love him so much but I really cant take much more.. Please any advice will help. Im hurting so bad at this time.Thanks,Stormyseason60 Reply to this Question
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reader, sarah_mew  +, writes (2 May 2012):
Hi there, it sounds like your boyfriend likes the chase but isn't really that into you. I've experienced this sort of thing before - a guy would chase me and then as soon as I showed interest back they would retreat. Then when I was a cold hard b*tch to them they'd come running back. The pattern would repeat itself, because I'm not naturally nasty, and I like to see the best in people, so as soon as I would be kind and loving again, they would treat me like dirt. It's all about the chase and the ego, they want what they can't have. This guy is SO not worth it. Even if you truly love him, you can't change him. You have to decide whether you are willing to put up with the way he treats you. This is what I've discovered: Love is not enough to make a good relationship. I've loved guys and then had to leave them because I couldn't be myself, or live my life the way I wanted with them. And I've had my heart broken by a guy who I was utterly in love with, but the relationship just wasn't right. It took months to get over him but I managed to do it, and now I look back and realise it was all for the best. You will find someone who treats you the way you deserve. Decide who you love more - him or yourself. Are you willing to sacrifice your happiness to be with him, just because you love him? You will find someone else who you love, and who loves you just as much.
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