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*gmitch
writes:I'm a gay 19 year old guy, I usually go down to the bar in city for a few drinks (its the only gay bar in the city I live). I got chatting to a bar staff that night and we hit it off instantly.About a month later we were both on a night out and I started speaking to him again, he told me that he really likes me and that he wanted to have a relationship with me. I was soo happy because I really like this guy. But also, I've been messed around a lot by guys and have been very heartbroken in the past so when he said all that I was the happiest person ever.I never heard from him since that night, he gave me his number but he wasn't replying to any texts, until I got a job at the bar. We were both on one night and I finally got to speak to him. He said that he regretted saying all that to me that night and wish he had never said anything. He said he just started going out with this new guy and didn't want to ruin anything with him.I was devastated, properly heart broken. I so badly liked him and now I've got to work with him. He doesn't even seem to care. Last night when I was on a night out I had a few people come up to me and say that I'm this guys ex and even worse how I'm going out with him right now while hes in the cornor snogging his actual boyfriend. I don't know what to do, I'm completely devastated that he took all them things back, but now everybody thinks I'm going out with him and hes cheating on me or hes my ex. It really upsets me because I just want to forget about him. Its even worse because this is my dream job and I've wanted it for so long!Plus, I think he just makes fun of the fact that I'm so upset about it and jokes about it to everybody I work with. I'm trying to put on a smile and ignore everything but its getting to the stage where I am just going to crack.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2010): He's a jerk and TOTALLY not worth worrying about, and you're wasting your time and energy beating yourself up about it. I'm sure there are lots of other men out there for you, go out and get yourslef a nice boyfriend, or just play the field and have fun with other hot guys if you're not the boyfriend type. But please promise us you're going to stop beating yourself up about this idiot, will you?
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reader, Red591  +, writes (20 September 2010):
 he sounds like a royal douche bag. u should just be friendly and poitely ask him if he's trying to gain weight. if he says no then reply...."huh? looked like you were sorry" lol go on and on to people you work with about other hot guys and if anyone asks about this jerk just reply....."oh that....ugh what was I thinking"
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reader, der_zyniker +, writes (18 September 2010):
I know it sucks right now, but it'll all blow over. This guy isn't worth your worries.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (17 September 2010):
 Well no offense dude, but he clearly blew you off to begin with... In getting a job where he works, surely you'd have known that you'd eventually be in an awkward/confronting situation with him...?
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