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writes:I wondering if this was normal or not.My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 months now. Before that he was single for 7 months.When we first started dating we fooled around every night for about a month and a half. At the beginning he would last only a few minutes, but it kept getting longer and longer.I was happy about it lasting longer at first but now its gotten to about an hour and a half. He says I am amazing, but after awhile I get tired and he has to finish himself.I feel bad about that, but I just cant jack or blow that long. Is it normal for a guy to last so long?We only do foreplay, no actual penetration sex. And I would like to keep it that way until marriage. I have not had sex yet but him and his ex use to, I just want to keep him satisfied, and I feel like I am no longer doing so.
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reader, lions go rawr +, writes (19 March 2015):
Unless he has a medical condition, it could possibly be due to him getting used to your usual moves on him. He might be building up a tolerance for the feel of your hand and mouth, and while he still enjoys it, he just doesn't get the same thrill as he used to. Maybe he's having a harder time being satisfied without getting the penetration factor in since he used to get it. But there's ways around that since you're commendably wanting to save yourself for marriage! Try new things. You can always look up new techniques online. Have you tried deep-throat? If you haven't, it's worth experimenting with as a new technique can really spice up an old routine. You could also talk to him about incorporating toys and using them to help him out. If you're comfortable with it, try masturbating in front of him and letting him get himself off to the sight of you.
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reader, ironman777  +, writes (18 March 2015):
Its got nothing to do with porn... once your having regular sex there are certain moves that get you off and they can loose there appeal after awhile. Keep trying new things to keep it fresh and also if there is a favourite position finish him off with that... he will know which ones feel better for him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2015): Various medications can definitely have an effect on this type of thing. I was taking an antidepressant for a period of time and while I had no problem getting it up, it was near impossible to have an orgasm. Not completely impossible, but it took a long time to achieve.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (18 March 2015):
 Is he on pills like opiates, blood pressure meds, or antidepressants?? They delay or inhibit orgasm for sure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionActually, he even takes over an hour when he does it himself. I am nervous that the extended time means he has a medical condition, which is why I am hoping its normal.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (17 March 2015):
Ask him if he watches porn and then get back to us.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2015): Yes it is normal. I don't watch porn but I am unable to orgasm from a handjob or BJ, it has to be vaginal. Lot of men are like me although lot of them hide it cuz it ain't manly. The fact that your guy used to cum like that easily but he is not now suggests that something else is going on, either he is getting it elsewhere or too much masturbation. Either way, you shouldn't worry because he likes it whether he cums or not, I know that.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (17 March 2015):
That screams "porn addict" to me. He's used to a porn level of stimulation, and he's used to his hands (or whatever he uses when he's jerking off to porn), which is why he can easily finish himself, but it takes longer with you.
If you're saving yourself until marriage, a trip to the sex store for a vibrating penis ring, fleshlight, or other such male toys could kick him into high gear. Otherwise, you may want to ask him to back off on his self-love because he's getting too desensitized to it. Who can last an hour and a half without an aching neck?!?
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