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writes:I have been talking to this guy over 1 year. We are not exactly in a relationship but I believe he was interested in me when we met first time in person. We met online.. He lives in the other state, so usually we talk on the phone. We talk like at least 3 days a week and long hours. I wasn't very interested in him when he visited me for the first time. So I hurt his feeling because I couldn't accept his love as he wanted. He tried to be romantic but I wasn't sure if I really liked him. But I liked him as a person a lot, he wasn't a jerk kind of guy I have met before. So I wanted to see how we would go in the future.He came to see me and I visited him in other state. It was really nice time and I enjoyed it. But he wasn't trying to do anything romantic. That made me a little bit upset but I thought he was just trying to be nice since the first time I wasn't ready..He was supposed to visit me last weekend but his flight was cancelled. I told him how I was excited and missed him so much. At that time I was getting emotional and finally I asked why he wasn't trying to be romantic with me even though we slept together. He said he is seeing this girl.. But he said he isn't dating. I was really upset. However I could understand he would want someone close to him all the time not in the other state.. It seemed like there was no way he could change his mind to retun to me.I'm not sure what's going on he and the girl. I just recently realized how much I love him. We are just joking around when we talk so I never got to ask him about his feeling about me. But I thought he had feeling for me since we talk a lot and it's been over 1 year. I don't want to lose him. I even started to moving near him. He used to ask me to move but at that time I couldn't get it seriously but now I am. I couldn't belive that he is seeing other girl, but I can't blame on him since I am not his GF.Please give me advice.. I can't sleep thinking about him.
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reader, Ringo +, writes (11 February 2010):
Ringo is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnd he told me he didn't cheat on me. He said he is just seeing the girl occationaly.. When I met him first time, it was like a date, but he didn't try to be romantic last time. He was treating me like a friend. When I asked why later, he said because he is seeing the girl.
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reader, Ringo +, writes (11 February 2010):
Ringo is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDear Carying guy,
Thank you for your answer. I liked your answer a lot. I thought he has been mine even though we weren't in a relationship because we have been talking a lot. Maybe I was a little too much haughty.. I always joked a lot saying kind of mean things and he said mean things to me back..it was not seriously though. So he told me he thought I never liked him. But recently I gave him a lot of hints that I like him. Last time we talked 3 days ago, I told him that I liked him and interested in getting serious and I didn't mind having a long distance relationship, but he told me there is not point to have it because we can't see everyday and I am going to back to my country soon..(I'm planning to come back but not sure yet.) He said he still wanted to talk to me.. But now I don't want to be just friends with him. I miss him a lot but I don't know how to talk to him either. I'm just trying to calm down and get my self back. I'm kind of waiting if he will call me to see if he was serious although I don't know if I should talk to him again or not. But I really want him back. I feel like I am missing something important to me.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (11 February 2010):
Well he has said that he's seeing her, not dating her. So if you want him, tell him now that you want him. But bear this in mind. Firstly, you only decided you loved him on the verge of losing him, so maybe you don't love him. Maybe you're just fearful of losing a very good friend. Secondly, he is seeing her and now seeing you. So is he sleeping with you both? That could be the sign of a guy who wants to have his cake and eat it. So think about all this carefully, and if you decide you want him, then get on the phone and tell him.
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