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*razy2binlove
writes:I really need advice,I recently found my moms x from 23yrs ago when I was little he took such good care of me,then a few yrs ltr they went seperate ways,we tried to stay in contact,but failed,now after 20 yrs we are re-united,I have been really sexually attracted to him and I love him in so many ways,now, is it ok to have a sexual relationship with him or is it morally wrong in some way? I am so confused but need an answer before anything. Happens! Please its urgent. Reply to this Question
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reader, crazy2binlove +, writes (3 February 2012):
crazy2binlove is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank u everyone who responded your all so right
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reader, Tbosse  +, writes (3 February 2012):
 Dont even go that far.he was your mom 'sex partner for haven' sake!
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reader, crazy2binlove +, writes (2 February 2012):
crazy2binlove is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you to everyone who replied I can now just concentrate on buildinf a close father daughter bond,thats what I really need and I love him so much that I dont want anything to ruin that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2012): I think even if he wanted a relationship with you it would be better to avoid this as your life could get complicated. How would your mother feel I wonder.
What could be at the root of this is that you would like to be looked after and miss that. Explore ways you can look after yourself and the way your family and friends look after you. And if you have no partner then maybe get yourself out there and find someone.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (2 February 2012):
 I agree, how would your mom feel about you bonking her ex-boyfriend? And are you sure the ex-boyfriend is interested on that level? Remember you only have one mother.
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reader, ironman777  +, writes (2 February 2012):
Hi - I feel this is wrong and you shouldnt pursue this. You're attaching sexual thoughts to a relationship that was a father - daughter relationship back in time.
I know people have done similar things, but I just dont think they ever work out well. Once the naughtiness of it disappears, you will discover that the man is like any other, and in the mean time you will have alienated so many people with the relationship. They will be slow to forget.
good luck
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reader, PerhapsNot +, writes (2 February 2012):
 There are some boundaries that should not be crossed and this is one of them. Sleeping with the same man that your mother had sex with and having a relationship with him is really creepy. He took care of you when you were little and this is where it should remain. Imagine if you had a child and one of your close male friends was part of her life. And 20+ years later, he was in a relationship and having sex with your daughter. Would you not see it as inappropriate? Now imagine one of your ex boyfriends having sex with your daughter. Creepy, isn't it? The parent's friends, exes are off limits, as it's crossing a very uncomfortable line. Reading your post makes me think that maybe you have some "daddy issues" if you're attracted to a man, who took care of you and made you feel safe and good during your childhood. What you're suggesting is dysfunctional and I urge you against it.
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (2 February 2012):
 For what it's worth, I suggest you find love elsewhere. You only have one mother. If that relationship with your mom's ex ever sours, you might have damaged the bond you have with mom beyond repair.
Good Luck!
Jeff
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