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*cockerham
writes:My boyfriend is not verbal at all in the bedroom. He never makes a single sound when we are having sex. He always turns his face away from me when he is coming too. Like he doesnt want me to see him (i guess thats why his fave position is doggy sytle)! I know hes a very shy guy but this bothers me. Should it bother me? Or are guys just not as verbal as girls? Thanks
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reader, will. +, writes (13 August 2009):
He's probably trying to make it last as long as possible.
I am not the verbal type because it scares the hell out of me trying to think of things to say, then i get side tracked and the whole experience is over much quicker. He might also think he's going to kill the mood if he says the wrong thing.
If he want's to say anything then he will.
Guys are also well known for turning their head while they cum, it's a muscle twitch response that is quite common.
Doggy is a very good position for men as it is easier for entry because legs don't need to be spread etc. It's nothing to do with you!
Hope this helped
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reader, Dr T  +, writes (29 September 2007):
give him time..
On the verbal... whisper things to him, pull his head close to your ear and ask him to talk to you.. dirty is always good.. or just ask him to tell you what he likes, how hes feeling etc. This also means his O face is hidden .. this will take time too. Try looking into each others eyes at the beginning.. then if he wants to hide his face let him. Each time do it a little longer, sounds to me that he just needs time to get comfortable. To each their own. Still while all this is going on your both having lots of sex which is always good!
Enjoy
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2007): Hi, ive been told this from an ex a few years ago. And, really I think that I wasnt sure exactly what to say and I didnt want to say something wrong! So, during sex...ask him some questions..."how does that feel"..."what do you want me to do to you"... just some things that he can respond to. dont ask things that arent related to the sex hehe.
its not the end of the world, he just needs to be taught.
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reader, Melanne +, writes (29 September 2007):
 There are a few things. I don't think it's got anything to do with you and you shouldn't feel bad about this. I am wondering if he has had bad experiences in the past. I was abused a lot by men and I found it difficult to express myself in the bedroom because I was nervous even with my soul mate it has taken time. I cannot be as verbal as I want anyway because my daughter is in the other room. Could he be afraid that someone may hear you? Also maybe he has problems with his self esteem. The next thing I am going to say is only a suggestion, but could he have problems with his sexuality?
I really feel the only way you are going to solve this is by talking to him and asking him truthfully. It may be something and nothing. Some people are not good at expressing themselves in the bedroom like I said I still find it difficult and I have been with my husband for 6 years, but like I said I was raped and sexually abused which may also have happened to your boyfriend. You do need to talk to him because it is obviously bothering you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2007): Some people are more verble than others. If it's bothering you talk to him and tell him you want to hear his voice during sex and that it turns you on. It might take a bit of encouragement from you but he'll try at least I'm sure.
As for him not wanting you to see his "O" face. He is probably embarrassed to show it. Recently a woman asked here about how she could get over seeing her partners' "O" face and said it turned her off. Maybe he has heard similar stories before and doesn't want that to happen with you.
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reader, towapa +, writes (28 September 2007):
 Some guys aren't verbal, while some other are. Just how things are with people. And he's most probably worried on how he looks when he comes... Maybe a girl laughed at him before and now he's scared to show his face to you while coming? Other than that, you'd need to talk to him about it, because communication is the main thing in a relationship. :)
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reader, penta  +, writes (28 September 2007):
 Some guys are very verbal. And some girls are extremely quiet. You should ask him. Tell him that find his excitement sexy and that you'd like him to share that with you. It's critical that you talk to him about this. If you can't talk to him about sex, your wants and his, then there's always going to be an absence in your life. Your sex won't be as good as it could be. And it means he's not the guy for you. So talk to him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2007): Perhaps he's afraid of someone else hearing him. If for example he's been having sex in his parents house and they've been around, he's consciously stifled any sounds of ecstasy and it's become a habit he finds hard to break.
You could ask him of course!
Phil
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