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writes:ok, we talked about this, this morning.. well more like argued about it this morning, and i told him i don't want to be pulled along in a relationship when I'm the only one wanting it to work, and not thinking about all the negative outcomes... when we first meet he always told me how he couldn't wait to spend the rest of his life with me, and always talked about getting married and living together, now its like he doesn't care, and he'd even told me, that he's no even sure if he can see us together or living together. I told him i want to stay together, but i don't want to the be only one getting 100% and he's not sure?.... We argue all the time, but he tries to say it's me?.. and blaming it on my mother, were she's overly protective, and says i do everything she asked, when thats not true, and he does "nothing wrong" according to him.. i think he's just wanting to have a reason to break up. or wants me to end it, so i look like the bad person, or testing me?... i don't know, i love him with all my heart, we've been together for almost 1yr and 9months. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2008): I suggest you and your boyfriend must have a good talk about the future of this relationship;
if you are not both committed to make it work; and are not happy in the relationship; then there is no point wasting time working on it;
then break up;
find somebody to be happy with;
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reader, rcn +, writes (8 July 2008):
 It seems as if he's not willing to take responsability for his actions. Lets say you do move in together, and get married, do you want to be with someone who's still not able to take responsability. He said he can't see you two together longterm. If you work 5% or 100%, that won't change his views. I don't see this being where you want to be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2008): you dont really give us much to go on here other than you are having a relationship issue. it sounds like he feels that you are more devoted to your mom than him? i had the same problem with my ex husband , him saying that when she asks me of something i jump to it but when he wanted something he was always second to her. its really hard to answer your question when all it really sounds like to me is that you are putting him second to others. do you guys always argue and what is the reason for so many arguments? maybe this isnt the best relationship
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