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writes:How can I fall out of love with someone when I have been in love with him for years and was willing to move overseas just to be with him. Now he has met someone else and I am left broken hearted and lost.What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, unicornmagic76 +, writes (31 December 2010):
unicornmagic76 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou all for the advice I will try to move on and forget him the best way I can
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reader, Plexi  +, writes (30 December 2010):
 Hun, I completely understand where you are coming from..........it's not easy but it's possible. Many times I had the intention to move on but was unable to because my heart still wasn't available and wanted to still hang on . First you need to be ready to let go of him completely and allow yourself to make room in your heart for a new person who will love you just as much as you love this guy. Erase all reminders you have of him like pictures, old letters, erase his phone number and email address so that you are not tempted to contact him again. Concentrate on all his faults and everything you don't like about him. Think only about these negative things until you find that you don't even like him anymore. Give yourself time as it will not happen overnight. In the meantime, keep yourself busy with hobies, family and friends.
Stay strong hun, it will get easier as time goes by and you will find happiness soon!
Hope this helps:)
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reader, kenny  +, writes (30 December 2010):
 I know it is hard and you feel really let down and broken hearted, but things will most certainly get better for you, time is the healer of all things. You need to be strong, pick yourself up, dust yourself down and move on. Get in touch with some freinds, go out and have some fun. Start a hobby, an evening class, or go to the gym, get out there and mix it up and before you know it your feelings for him will diminish. There is someone out there for you, someone special who will give you the love and respect that you so rightly deserve. Invarible we meet our perfect partners when we are not even looking, or when we least expect it.
Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2010): I do so feel for you. And sadly there is no solution to 'how do I fall out of love?', at least not in the short term. It is a slow old process but does entail trying to keep busy, doing things to distract yourself, going out with friends, plan a holiday etc. But the truth is you will, in time, find a way through. You may always love him in a small way, but as part of your past, once you have fully moved on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2010): This is a very painful experience to go through. What you need to remember is that it happens a lot and doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you.
You need to come to terms with the situation by finding things to do and friends to see and take your mind off it. It doesn't happen overnight, but gradually you will feel better.
Maybe also you could count all the things you like about the place you are now, and what you wouldn't have had overseas with him.
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reader, Tbosse  +, writes (30 December 2010):
 Falling out of love when the 'one you love is taken' is the most painful thing.all you can do is just to keep your mind at ease.always remember that nothing lasts forever,that you'll heal with time.goodluck
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