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writes:hi iam 19 and going on a date with a woman who i think is gorgeous but she got 4 kids different ages young; oldest is 7 and she's 25 do u think it might work out and also i am worried what my folks might say aswell. just want to know what ur opinions are . Reply to this Question
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reader, confusedguy123 +, writes (1 April 2008):
confusedguy123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi thanks for the advice and all i will go on a date but prob say that i don't think we suitable or somethig as i won'tnot turn up fo rhte date as i had that done to me and carn't do that anyway lol and we were txting each each and i said what type of guy does she want and she said for someone to treat me liek a queen and not a doormatter and someone who likes her for her an dnot the kids which i don't get lol (iam not bright lol )
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (1 April 2008):
 Hey confusedguy,
don't take this the wrong way , but your last post is proof that you shouldnt go out with the girl with four kids.
She needs someone to comitt themselves wholeheartedly to her, someone who will share responsibilities in raising her children and someone who is in for the long term. Judging from your post, this is just not you.
Be a 19 year old like every other guy ( like I was when I was your age ) go out and have fun with girls, but leave this one with the children alone, she needs someone in her life who can be a rock for her - be honest with yourself that just isn't you.
Go out with the girl your own age .
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reader, confusedguy123 +, writes (1 April 2008):
confusedguy123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi thanks for the advice but now it got more complex, we going on a date but another girl who i was talkign with before i met this one asked me out for Friday and i said yes, and now i dunno what to do with this girl lauren is 19 my age and we have quite a bit in common, and dunno what to do as my mates said don't go for the 24/25 year old but i dunno what to do
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reader, Collaroy +, writes (31 March 2008):
Hi,
for the first part I thought, what the hell 19 and 25 no big deal there.
But then you brought up that she has 4 kids.
My word, that is a hell of a lot of responsibilty to take on as a 19 year old and that is exactly what your parents will think.
But love conquers all, so you may be one of the exceptions I guess.
But relationships are all the same, first a honeymoon period where you cant keep your hands/eyes of each other, and then things settle down to more routine matters. It's at this stage where most people will advise that you may think you are in over your head. You will end up as a very young man who is responsible for supporting a family of 5. It is an enormous thing to take on , you may have to work a couple of jobs just to keep your head above water and forget about holidays and your freedom - you will have none. So I think any reluctance from your family will revolve around the effect it will have on you as a young guy.
Of course you are simply going on a date, so chances are nothing will come of it, but be realistic, enjoy yourself and you may develop are very strong friendship. But this girl has a lot of mileage and undoubtedly a lot of baggage with 4 kids at the young age of 25 years old, its best to not commit yourself to anything in a hurry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008): It's a possiblity that it could work but none of us can tell you for sure but we can all hope:) and as for the parents and can almost garuntee that they will not like it but IDK your parents so I can't tell you for sure. they will probably be very conserned but don't be mad at them it's their jobs as parnets to look out for your best interest. They may alsonot like the fact that she has kids but again IDK . All I can tell you is to hope for the best and tell your parents how much you like her and let your parents meet her .
I hope everything works out for you !
I hope this helped in some way
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