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writes:If I mention the names of men who I admire or have dated, my co-worker always makes this scrunched up face like he smelled a nasty poopie. I don't constantly talk about other guys. Does this mean he is jealous? He also stares at me when he thinks I'm not looking a lot. Does he like me? Are there any other signs I can look for without being obvious? Thank you for your advice.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (29 July 2017):
 I have to say I agree with the other aunties/uncles here.
He isn't jealous, I think he is just not interested in hearing you gush about men he doesn't know nor care about. What's the point in bragging about ALL your lovely exes? Do you think it makes you seem like a better catch if you talk about ALL the men you like/know?
If you WANT to get to know him better those are NOT really great subjects. And no, it doesn't make you look more desirable or attractive.
So no, I don't think he is jealous at all, he is just tired of trying to be polite.
Whether he likes you? Who knows?
I can tell you this, if I had a coworker who acted that way around me, I would NOT be interested. Someone who constantly have to toot their own horn, are quite often insecure or seeking attention. you might not think you come across as that... and you might not. But it's impossible to guess what he thinks.
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (28 July 2017):
 He is your colleague... and... he's probably thinking "Gosh woman, I get it!"
Perhaps it's best to just keep things at work formal and keep conversation friendly, not friendly enough to spill the beans on your entire personal life though because he clearly finds your 'talks' distasteful as would anybody who isn't generally nosy or into prying.
Keep the conversation light and stop talking about your personal life all the time.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (28 July 2017):
 I don't think so. I am with Denizen, I think this guy's grimaces are the equivalent of a big eye roll. Maybe you don't talk about your exes or dates all the time, ok- but probably it is more often of what it is appropriate in work settings, with people you aren't closest , best friends with, which is - really the bare minimum. People get tired of hearing these kind of conversation, I agree with Denizen also on the fact that you should try to keep the conversation about matters of general interest.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (28 July 2017):
 No, I think he is just tired of hearing about your old dates. And he is probably looking at you to see if you are still watching him, and wondering why.
Honestly OP it can be really tiresome to have someone who shares the workplace constantly going on about the minutiae of their personal life. Pick something else to talk about, ideally something he is interested in.
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reader, judgedick  +, writes (28 July 2017):
 DO you like him, Do you want to start a relationship with him keeping in mind that he is a co-worker, Can you see it being a worth while risk,Yes by what you say he has you on his mind quite a bit, but you don't know what is going through his mind when he is looking a lot,Friend-zone, he might feel he is in friend zone and does not want to take the risk of taking the plunge and getting knocked back, With you talking about intimate things to a coworker I can't blame him for that one, He more than likely feels that he would get turned down if he asked you out and does not want to risk his job or make it not a nice place to work, A lot of us guys think we are not good enough for this dream girl and we give to long looking and waiting for the right time to end up seeing her going out with the guy that is even less than us but has the balls to walk up and ask any girl out,I am a big believer in the one that women are equal, and you have the right to make the first move, and would not look badly on been ask out by a girl, God in my day it was so silly girls walked up and down in front of a guy like they were cats hoping this man would get the courage to ask them out, proving that nothing had changed from the 1950's is it any different today, You have built some trust between you two, you have some communication between you, your feelings and desires are growing and you are equal so ask him to meet out side work make this easy for you two, and if he does not move then you will be a little sore for a few days at work and things can go back to just friends and you will know there is no point in being too intimate with this co-worker
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