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writes:Please help me, I have no idea what happened. I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 months now. Since day one we both have been together almost every day. He continued to tell me on a daily basis how much he cared for me etc...and that no one has ever made him feel like I have. Flowers, dinners, notes, text messages, and the continues calls of how he's so happy and misses me and can't wait to see me. The this past weekend we go away, meet all his friends fam etc..and tells me how much he cares for me and how everyone loves me. He always told me how he adored me, and wanted to take care of me, and he will treat me like no oher man. Then he tells me he loved me!!! i first thought o-shit this is gonna be over, then thought no it's all good. Needless to say we had a blast and continued to have the best weekend ever..Here's the problem, i don't get it!! the next day after we got home i went over his house after work like always and when i got there, his good friend was doing his laundry. His friend is a girl that he's known for years and she just moved into his vacant appartment down stairs. Deff not worried about this, but i did question it to myself. Then he said he had her doing errons for him earlier that day. well of course i was a little hurt cause he could have asked me, but didn't. To make a long story short, he asked what was the matter, he could tell i was bothered by something. And when i told him why did he ask her to do these things and not me, he FREAKED out on me and started yelling telling me that he was tired and didn't want to get in a arguement. In shock, i told him i was leaving and would discuss this further the next day..I was so hurt he talk to me like that...So what happened the next day. He called and said that this was over and he wasn't gonna deal with this shit..I then felt like I got punched in my stomach and said to myself he has got to be kidding. How could one minute he's loving me then the next dumping me? I explained to him it made me sad that he couldn't have asked me to do these things for him. He didn't care and told me that he was done and sorry it didn't work out..I am devistated and confused.What happened? will he call back? should i call him and tell him i miss him? someone help me!!
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reader, lalybug2008 +, writes (27 June 2008):
 I've been where you are. And I have to honestly say.. LET GO! For him to freak out to that degree over something so insignificant is giving you a "glimpse" into what your life with him would be like. He can do what he wants and if you don't like it - "Too bad, DEAL WITH IT" or he'll just break up with you. I completely understand your feeling upset or bothered because he had another woman doing his laundry and errands. Why couldn't he do them himself though? Anyway, he should be mature enough to understand why that could cause a little ripple in a new affair. Maybe something happened with a previous relationship where this "friend" is concerned and now he has zero tolerance. Perhaps there's more to their story than just friends. When someone totally showers you with love, affection, adoration and all the wonderful things that sweep us women off our feet...be very aware.. it's usually a wolf in sheeps clothing! I'm not saying all nice men are this way. It's just that there's a certain level of hospitality that we all expect from someone else. Especially a new partner. But there are times when that level is far exceeded and you feel as though you've hit the jackpot! YAY! I finally found Mr. Perfect/Mr. Right! Only to find out a short while later he's really Mr. WAY WRONG! Be glad this happened as early as it did. Take the time you need to mourn and grieve because I know.. he got into your head and your heart with how good he treated you. In a very short period of time he became your "knight in shining armor" like I said, I've been there. These guys are PLAYERS! Out for no one but themeselves. I strongly urge you to move on. Do not call, do not do anything. If he does call you, don't answer. If you do, make it monotone and very short. Don't give him the priviledge of your precious time. And most important - DO NOT LET HIM KNOW HE HURT YOU THAT BADLY! This is the time for your self confidence and self esteem to kick it up a notch.
I'm here for you because I've been where you are. If you want to pm me, go ahead and we can chat one on one. Take care and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): Because the relationship is so new, it would have been odd for him to ask you to do his laundry. I mean, really, he can't even do his own laundry! So a trusted (long-time) friend stepped in. I know you didn't mind helping out, but still it makes him feel like he is not independent. Bottom line, you are better off letting him go. You letting him go. You were honest and asked all the right questions. He is the one who needs a nanny. If you wanna call, do. But make sure you don't settle for anything less than what you are looking for.
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