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*ammyjoe
writes:How do I know if he has real feelings for me?I met this guy on the internet about 9 months ago. We then started chatting online and webcamming for several months. i then took a chance and flew to Canada and spent a wonderful month with him. it was the most amazing time. We connected from day one.We then spoke of perhaps moving to the states together. He then went on to tall me how he had strong feelings for me , and that I made him feel again ,since his ex.We were inseperable for the whole month. When i had to leave, we were both so upset and sad. On returning home, we continued camming and chatting online. We knew that we had to be realistic about our lives back home. But continued to talk about having a future together. But that it would be complicated, being so far apart. And that we had to take one day at a time. Then, I was given the opportunity of relocating either to Canada or the states with my company. It was so unexpected. the last thing I ever thought would be to get an opportunity to work in Canada, that is where he is from. So I thought, this can only be fate! Well, when i told him that I could be coming there, it is like he panicked, and changed his whole attitude. And then ,out of the blue, he told me that he had slept with another girl. Why would he confess that to me at this precise moment? And then still go on to tell me that it was only sex. And that his feelings have not changed for me. After all the time, money, effort and trust that i have invested in this entire relationship, he does this to me. I don't know what to believe anymore. He then told me that he needs his space to sort out his feelings. But that he has not given up on me. I have not heard a word from him for over a week now. What should i do? Please help.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (23 March 2009):
 Hey there,
Oooh, you poor sweet thing. Here's the thing about long distance relationships, they're great because they're kind of non-committal. You can live your own lives, do whatever the hell you want and still have someone to talk to, listen to, give emotional energy to...
It sounds like your fella was suddenly like, "oh my God, she'll come to Canada because of ME and then she'll want to like, seriously date and be around all the time...", not to mention - I'm thinking that your fella is definitely enjoying life as a semi-bachelor. He's slept with another girl which leads me to believe that he's still out there having fun at the bars, flirting with girls, etc.
If I were you, if he doesn't call up in the next couple of days, I would just let this one go and move on. I'm sorry, sweetness!
Good luck!
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