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writes:the man who i have been seeing for 5 months has just been made redundant and homeless as his flat is in the place he works.He has to be out by 10 feb. he has no job to go to and no home.i have my own place (where i live with my teenage daughter) and have said he can stay with us until he gets sorted out...i don't want him to sleep rough. He has always treated me well and i trust him and feel i love him I am a bit scared as my last partner moved in with me around 7 years ago and i sold up and bought a house with him, but he took all the equity and now i struggle financially. I don't want to make that mistake again, but can't see my new man living in bad conditions.am i doing the right thing? he knows it's only a temporary thing.
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reader, Rock chick +, writes (2 February 2009):
Rock chick is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am a nice person and want to help him - it's too soon to think about living together but i don't want to see him on the street sleeping rough. Having said that - when the time comes, he will have his own place and move out. He knows that.
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reader, Auntie Stoned  +, writes (2 February 2009):
Do not let the man move in at all lest you end up having to support him and facing difficulty to get him out eventhough you might it clear to him only temporary. Furthermore, you do not know him for long only 5 months. Being your boyfriend does not constitute welfare obligation on your part. Comfort and better life quality for yourself and daughter should come first not your boyfriend. You have already done your part by helping him to get help from the welfare organisation and search for lodgings. That's where your part ends. No more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2009): I see your concerns.....however i can not see why you actually are in this relationship with him if you both want to live seperate, and you only want him with you temporary, then where are you both GOING in this relationship? to me nowhere, especially your poor boyfreind.via con dios.
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reader, Rock chick +, writes (1 February 2009):
Rock chick is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi
thanks for that - i was just feeling nervous of what i had decided.
he won't get redundancy, but i have already printed off some job vacancies for him to contact, rung the benefits office for advice and mentioned private landlords to him. i want to help him as much as i can and see how things go in the future, dating him....but not living together.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (1 February 2009):
You are doing the right thing as you have made it clear that it's only temporary.
It'll only be a week or two till he can find a place with his redundancy cash. Or there are jobs around, just probably not as well paid as he is used to. Anything is better than nothing in this climate.
Help him look for work and head down to estate agents and find lists of rental property to go through together.
Good Luck!! xx
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