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writes:Hey everybody. I want to start out by wishing you all happy holidays!!Anyways, I have a problem. Everytime I go down on my boyfriend he always goes a bit limp. Not completely but it goes down a bit. Everything is fine when we have sex. He has no problems in that area. It's only when I go down on him, which I don't even do that often, and its usually only when he initiates it. He is usually pretty honest with me and he doesn't try to sugarcoat stuff but I have asked him if I am doing something wrong and he says no. I have gone down on other boyfriends and they seemed to like it. I am not real experienced though. He's alot older than me. He is 36 and I am 26. Maybe he is used to better?? But he has always been open and honest about giving me sexual tips. But he says nothing's wrong. But I mean he usually has a massive erection during everything except for that. What could possibly be wrong??
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2007): Thanks for your answers!!! Well I guess the consensus is that he might not like how I do it. I think you are right. I am going to try all your suggestions. Thank you.
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reader, missmel34  +, writes (14 December 2007):
 LOL Richard. I love it!
Revenge hey......very cool, must keep that one in mind.
Performing fellatio is a tricky thing, every man is different. One guy likes it soft, another likes it hard and deep. Communication is probably the best bet here. Theres some great instructional sites online that give great advice.
Try giving him a massage before hand, helps to really relax your man.
Also, don't forget to suck. I think there are sum women out there that think fellatio is just running your lips over a man. Suck him, use your tongue, use your hands. Pay attention to what he really likes. Finally doesn't matter how much you think you know about it, the odd read up also gives you new ideas...use the internet to research.
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reader, Richard_EMids  +, writes (14 December 2007):
 Hi - oould be a whole list of things. Here's what I can think of: 1) Could be anxiety - but unusual that it just affects oral sex. So probably not. 2) You're not doing it how he likes it - ask him while your doing it ..is this nice...and keep trying different things ...see next numbers. 3) You're doing it too soft, he can't feel it. 4) You're doing it too rough, it hurts. 5) You're doing it 'deep throat' style. He doesn't like it. Don't do it. 6) You're not using fingers as well as mouth. 7) He has had a bad experience. Have you ever caught him with teeth? 8) Has anybody else ever caught him with teeth? (sorry) 9) He associates orgasms with thrusting - let him thrust. 10) You pull his foreskin back too hard. 11) You don't pull his foreskin back at all. 12) He has cheated and wonders if this is the day you'll take your revenge!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2007): Try very lightly touching the scrotum and caressing it while you are down there doing your thing. This is awesome; trust me. He also might build up anxiety about it if you are expressing concern.
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reader, Diimo +, writes (13 December 2007):
 Well, one thing to keep in mind. As a guy gets older often he needs a little more physical and sexual/mental stimulation to maintain an erection. Usually oral sex doesn't provide the same type of stimulation that the real deal does. I'm in the minority I think, but oral sex performed on me...generally doesn't do it for me anyway.
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reader, theothergirl +, writes (13 December 2007):
IT could be two things. Maybe he doesnt like it that much or maybe he is too excited. You can keep on asking him how does it like it as in using your tongue a little more, deep throat it or just suck on the top of his penis. That is if you're not doing a good job. but if he says you're doing well, just ignore it and try other things to arouse him.
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (13 December 2007):
 I used to have this problem if a girl went down on me. With me it was down to nerves. ALthough I have to say if I went down on her first that would turn me on so much she could then return the favour.
DON'T WORRY IT COULD JUST BE NERVES :)
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