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writes:my boy friend and i have been together for about 2 years, this is also his and mine first relationship i have never been the jealous type untill my first love {him} i know that some of the things i get jealous about is stupid but it also makes me feel not enough for him. he says stuff like she's hot and looks at girls a know bodys when they take pictures of them selves {naked} i dont like it and he knows it. but why do i still get jealous i think that im not happy with my image, body ect. do you have any advice for me or a solution for him or me?
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (28 July 2007):
 Your guy needs to know how what he is doing is making you feel. Or you are only going to get worse. I know its hard to open up especially with low self confidence but you need to hun.
My partner looks at other girls when we go out and about but he no longer comments on it as I wasn't too keen to hear how hot he thought they were either. I know he was only looking and it would go no further, but it still hurt.
We talked and my main point was he would be looking at all these girls and saying how hot they were but he never told me that I was beautiful, sexy, hot or whatever he thinks of me. So he stopped being verbal about them, and started telling me occasionally what he feels about me. He started taking note of new clothes/hair style etc because he could see after the chat that although what he was doing wasn't wrong as such it was still doing me damage.
Good luck hun!
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reader, halz +, writes (27 July 2007):
halz is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthe jealousy has stopped but only because its now affecting my self confidence and self esteem my boyfriend makes me feel as though im not good enough for him and compared to the girls that he looks at and says are hot i will never look like that. i want to be happy but i dont wont to leave him. i have always been poen to him about what i think is wrong but now i have a problem opening up about this to him. he doesnt relise what he is doing i feel like im getting pushed away by all these other girls what do i do what can i say too him so he wont get affended.
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reader, sxcbabiegal +, writes (20 July 2007):
 my boyfriend has done exactly the same to me don't let him get away with it it'll just make him go further with it i know exactly how you feel so don't worry if you keep seeing this guy he will ruin your self confidence like my boyfriend has destroyed mine Leave him asap ! and you have a right to be jealous on fact you have a right to be very angry at your guy!! seriously leave him now before it goes further you deserve better than that
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (20 July 2007):
It may be you aren't happy with your body. Have you tried talking to your guy about it?
My guy is very in to Jenna Jameson yet claims to not like the stereotypical blonde with big boobs. We don't really talk about it anymore and he chucked his porn with her in it out. It's not so much of an issue now as it used to be.
I would talk to your guy about how you don't like to hear how "hot" another girl is :)
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