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writes:i badly love a guy. according to him he is also loves me. he is working in a placement services. so he called me for a job in janubry but after that we didn't have any contact. in may he was again calling me for a job. after that we was talking on phone in a week slowly slowly we use to talk daily and after that 6-7 times in a day. we use to talk about sex n all. after that he was comes to my city we meet in a hotal. we spend whole day with each other and make physical relation also. he was here for 3 days. so every day we take sex n all. after that he was going to his city but we talk on phone regullarly. after a month he was come again in my city for office work we again meet and take sex n all n spend whole day with each other. we enjoyed our life each other. but now i m much serious for him so i told him just talk with ur parents about our marriage. he said i can't talk with my parents and our marriage is not possible. i said just once i m not saying u appose ur parents. but only for me only for once. i said again n again. but now he is ignoring me. means now he phone call are 2 or 3 times in a day for 2or 3 min only. now he says me we r friends we will be friends. but i m not ready a relation just like a friend so from last 2-3 day i m not talking with him. he calls me but a single call in a day. i feel he is not love me even he is not care for me. now plz tell me i will continu or stop this relationship............so many times i was asked him whats the problem to talk with his parents but he never says anything. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2007): It sound like he just wanted the sex, and isn't much bothered about you as a person. Its easy to confuse sex and love, chemicals are released in the brain when you have sex with someone, This creates an attachment.
You can't demand he marry you.
One of you ask's the other, will you marry me?
Then the other relies yes or no
Accept the answer and act accordingly.
As well its a matter of timing. You may get a i'm not ready. Now this is dangerous territory, because they may never be, and use this as a carrot on stick method for you put more effort in.
Good luck
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reader, hugs4u002  +, writes (28 October 2007):
You are confusing love with sex. They are very different for men. The reason there are so few male prostitutes is that women equate sex with love and therefore have no desire for a prostitute. Just because this man has sex with you does not in any way shape or form mean that he loves you...he can even say it without actually meaning it. Why don't you back off the sex and marriage and see if you two have something going........work on the friendship and comaraderie and you will have a more clear picture of where you stand with this man.
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reader, dapone 1  +, writes (28 October 2007):
 hi Anon.
I am sorry to say that he is using you for his own sexual pleasure, he has no intention of speaking to his parents, or any consideration for you what so ever, you do not really want to be in this relationship because it is going no where, if you refused him his pleasure it will be more than likely, that he will cut all contact with you all together.
You should not be used in this way, i think it is time for you to move on, and start a relationship with more meaning, with some one who is going to want and have the same values as yourself.
I hope this helps.
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