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writes:How do you get over someone you know you have to be over? My ex and I have been trying for over a year now. I need to realize it's not going to work and give up. Any suggestions? Help!
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reader, Joseph W. South  +, writes (28 October 2007):
 Not too many people will admit this, but the best way to get over someone is to date someone else, or in severe cases, date SEVERAL people. Sex releases chemicals in the bloodstream that cause us to become addicted to certain people. There are biological purposes for this. I have a whole range of ways to help people get over their addiction to another person in my shows on Neediness Management.
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reader, Jen20619  +, writes (28 October 2007):
How u get over him is .If you go to think about him stop urself and think of something else.Stay active .Do anything that keeps ur mind off him.Soon it will be much easier to do that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2007): In your mind you aren't sure if he's the one or not. How can you be at stalemate for a whole year. Is it a problem that can't be resolved.
Your asking strangers advice. You want Scotty to beam you up. Make a decision, do you want this man or not.
If not tell him not to contact you. If he does change phone etc, if that don't work get restraining order.
Some ones knocking at your door, its up to you wether you let him in or not.
Don't keep him hanging on.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2007): Stop listening to him. Change your phone numbers and if at all practical then move! Just tell him that it is definately over and you want to move on and you think he should do the same. when they bounce back and forth into your life then there is no moving on and no new beginnings. Think of the fun your are missing with a new bloke. Get rid.
take care
xx
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reader, Vixxy  +, writes (28 October 2007):
 Make a clean break......If it's not working and you've been trying then it's never gonna work. Your best to just say your goodbyes and move on.
I make this all sound so simple i know lol but it's gonna take time and some will power but i find some of the good ways to get over an ex is to think of the stuff that really gets to you, the things he's done to upset you or make you mad.
His annoying habits (all men have them)...Sit an write them out.....Writing feelings out can help a great deal.....you dont have to show this to anyone but if you write it all out you'll feel instantly better i guarantee you because your feeling all this pent up stress and worry that you dont need and it seems to me that you need to find a way to get it out, Try it :)
Then in a month or 2 or however long you see fit.....get the piece of paper out and read it back and you wont feel anything...You'll have moved on and you'll feel so much better for it......Find something new in ur life.....see your friends....better your career.....get a dog.....lol
You'll find someone else.....He's just not right for you.....An ex is an ex for a reason (just you remember that)....You can try for yrs an never make it work so why waste ur life?...
good luck hunni xx
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